The Wife a Coach as well as Lover

A wife is the "helpmate" that is "coach" of her husband sort of like the DCPI of the police commissioner, advising him on matters to help him think about all the nuances of life.

A husband and wife have differing perspectives, that's why they came together, to add something to themselves that they would not otherwise have. Each needs one another to have a whole picture. With only one there is half the equation, with two there is a whole.

We are two different personalities, two different genders coming from different backgrounds, it is silly to think that there will not be conflicts to discuss and work out in order to come closer to that "oneness" experience.

Having been married more than 50 years now I can tell you that each disagreement and resolution brought a little more spiritual and emotional growth.

This can only happen if two people who are married choose to love one another God's way and forgive God's way. When there is an injury the one who sinned confesses to God and to their spouse and the offended spouse forgives. Sometimes both say mean and rude things in an argument and both must confess and forgive.

The ultimate good is for both to turn to God, but if one will not then the one who wants to obey God does it by themselves and prays for God to make them what they should be, leaving their spouse to God to attend to.

I used to hear in the 1970's "it is better to divorce than to fight all the time", I say balderdash!!!!!! When anyone said this foolishness to me I said; "there is another solution, why doesn't one of you just stop fighting." It only takes one to stop for the argument to stop. Pride on both sides is what keeps arguments going.

And I might add, most struggles are insignificant, easily resolved if one party would just let go of their pride.

Proverbs 16:18

"18 Pride goes before destruction,

and a haughty spirit before a fall."

Lastly, learn to have a sense of humor over our quirks, accepting our spouse as an interesting person instead of an irritating one. After all, we are all irritating at times and we can be very interesting if we live within the personality God gave us and not according to the expectations of the people around us. Just a thought!!!!