True Repentance

God never told us to forgive those who are not sorry. People who are mean do not change because we "say" we forgive them. Forgiveness is for the reconciliation of a relationship, not for our own good feelings. A relationship cannot be reconciled when one party is continually harming another without remorse.

Luke 17:3-4

“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying 'I repent,' you must forgive them.”

If someone has not repented toward God they will not repent toward you, at least not authentically.

Narcissists will say they are sorry or make an excuse if they see they are having consequences that are uncomfortable but it is not authentic and is manipulative. We know this when the offense is continually repeated.

Those who are truly sorry for how they have harmed someone else don't want to repeat the same sinful behavior again.

One evidence of real repentance is forsaking the sin and never returning to it again.

John 14:15-31

15 “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments."