Spirituality Vs Obligation as Motivations

When we are in Christ we move from the worldly view of doing things out of obligation to doing them out of love, a desire to please God. If we remain in obligation all our lives we cannot possibly have love and intimacy with God or anyone.

 
Love and intimacy come from knowing someone on a deeper level, to be able to do this we must be more interested in how they think than we are in dominating them or doing things for them to elevate ourselves.

 
John 13:34
"34 I am giving you a new commandment, that you love one another; just as I have loved you, that you also love one another."