Forgiveness God's Way

We are to forgive "as the Lord forgives", God forgives those who are repentant, He never forgives those who are not sorry or even think they didn't do anything wrong, and worse the offender keeps on doing the same things.

Relationship reconciliation is two sides to the same coin, there must be a confession of sin and forgiveness for the relationship to be reconciled. There is no reconciliation when there has been no confession of wrong. Saying we forgive does nothing, it merely enables the offender to enlarge his pride solidifying his terrible behavior.

Those who accuse you of being unforgiving when the offender is not sorry, are gaslighting to shape you into their idea of forgiveness by those who do not understand confession and forgiveness God's way.

What forgiveness is not: It is not a feeling, or a desire to make sure we don't become bitter. One does not become bitter because someone else will not repent. Nor do we become bitter because the relationship cannot be reconciled because of unrepentance.

Notice we see much pressure in our culture to forgive the offender but the offender is not pressured to repent, this is backward and ungodly.

Because of this mentality of forgiving without accountability, many people are not properly disciplining and training their children thinking if they are just kind and friendly without correction the child will learn to be kind and friendly. A child without correction will become unruly and selfish and so do adults.

We demonstrate God's response to sin through our handling of it. When we forgive when there is no contrition for sin we are sending the message that the offender will have everything they want without having to be accountable.

1 John 1:9 "9 if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

We are never to treat disrespectfully anyone but we are, to tell the truth, and require accountability from those who are offenders. Those who are not sorry will not change their behavior. There cannot be trust with someone who thinks it is alright to be rude and disrespectful.

We cannot change others, but we can protect ourselves from becoming like those who are disrespectful by avoiding them.

2 Timoithy 3:1-5 "2 Timothy 3:1-5

Difficult Times Will Come

3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

Take note of verse 5 in this passage; "avoid such people."

God said that "bad company corrupts good character" meaning we will either become accustomed to the bad behavior and begin to emulate it or we will respond in anger.

Evil people cannot be changed or taught by us, they are resistant to any form of correction. God said we are not to "throw our pearls before swine."

One of the reasons the church has become apostate is because there is little correction in the body. Most people remain silent when someone is acting badly instead of correcting and disciplining them to return to the right thinking and right actions.

The day I realized I am not responsible to make anyone understand was the freest day of my life. I no longer attempt to make anyone understand but I do protect myself from toxic people who love their arrogance.

It is impossible to help others return to the right path when they have many other people in the group supporting them on the wrong path.

Seek Christ, be content to be with Him when no one else supports or loves you, because in these last days it will be very difficult to find people who love Christ and desire to obey His Word.

2 Timothy 4:3

"3 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;"

That time is now!