Fear is What Drives the Rudeness and Meanness

Those who are rude and mean are that way because they are depending on themselves for everything walking in fear of failure.

When we depend on Christ we do not walk in fear and we take each challenge in life as a strengthening of character as well as a learning experience that brings us closer to trusting in Christ.

Those who trust in themselves walk in vengeance against those they cannot control. They live a life of continual anger and fear because in their heart of hearts, they know they are not as perfect as they like to believe.

Humble unsaved people learn throughout their life that they must readjust their thinking and actions to be successful but always have that underlying stress of attempting to measure up.

The Born again believer who is trusting in Christ does not walk by fear, or if they do for a time they quickly learn to take their fear to Christ to be reassured that He is in control.

Those who are arrogant, full of self-exaltation, cannot admit flaws and failures. They blame others for their failures and exact revenge on anyone who would attempt to bring them back to right thinking that could help them grow and change. Because of this, the arrogant person regresses even further into childish responses to disagreement.

Until we can admit our flaws and failures, seek Christ for change in our hearts, we will continue down a path of spiritual and emotional destruction, regressing every day we resist the truth.

Chronic defensiveness in the arrogant person creates a continual distrust and disrespect for those they wish to control but cannot. In this distrust, they accuse their target of things that are not true but the arrogant person wishes were true. Even worse they repeat these lies to others making others distrust their target.

These arrogant people have a habit of keeping secrets to protect themselves while revealing the secrets of others to ruin their reputation. Perhaps the reason they keep secrets is because they believe others will reveal them the way the arrogant person reveals the secrets of others. Sadly though, the secrets the arrogant person reveals about others are fabricated in their own minds, the thing they want to believe about their target but are not true.

Arrogant people are self-impressed causing them to disregard their target as insignificant and even stupid.

These arrogant people crave admiration so much so they don't want their target to have any admiration from anyone else, this is the reason they gossip against their target, to prevent anyone from appreciating them.

There is no love involved in anything the arrogant one does or says. Everything is manipulation and utilitarian, they must not validate anyone who does not elevate them as special causing a continually vengeful attitude.

One thing to remember it that once we have been designated by the arrogant person as being on their "bad list", there is no getting off of that list. And we will be blacklisted in the minds of all their flying monkeys who heard their false story against us but do not have the sense to dismiss their lies as gossip.

Those who live in a continual state of pride and arrogance are dominated by devils, the reason they cannot stop their ways. Devils have convinced them they are superior and worthy of superiority over others who do not deserve love and attention.

Is it possible for someone who has lived their entire life in raging arrogance to change? I don't know the answer to that, but I do know that they have the ability to ruin our walk with Christ unless we refuse to let them by remaining in contact with them.

Galatians 5:9

"A little leaven works through the whole batch of dough."

2 Thessalonians 3:14

"Take note of anyone who does not obey the instructions we have given in this letter. Do not associate with him, so that he may be ashamed."

Romans 16:17

"Now I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who create divisions and obstacles that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Turn away from them."

Empathetic and loving people have a tendency to give people chance after chance hoping they saw it wrong or that the person will change. It is wise to walk away until the Holy Spirit is clear that someone is repentant for their continual misdeeds and disrespect. We cannot go wrong when we see the truth and depend on the Holy Spirit to give us wisdom.

Never try to change this arrogant person or instruct them, they cannot learn until they repent and have been convicted by the Holy Spirit. The best course of action is to avoid them as much as possible and refuse to be drawn into their drama. Silence is golden when it comes to interactions with evil people.

Once vengeance has taken over the arrogant person there is no reasoning with this or changing it. Arrogant people want to make us think we are responsible for their attitude but we are not, they are and need to repent.

2 Corinthians 6:17

“Therefore come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.”

Hallalujah! There is victory in obeying Christ.