Interpersonal relationships have misunderstandings because innocent words or actions may be interpreted by those who have anger issues, as bad when they were not and even people pleasers will interpret something as good that prevents them from helping with a solution.
Things that are bad can be seen as good and things that are good may be seen as bad based on the mindset of the hearer.
I have seen angry people make every little thing look like there was ill will involved. And, I have seen people who like to be seen as positive interpret bad things as mere mistakes or unintentional to avoid judging righteously.
Often people see things the way they want to see them and will become agitated and even angry when someone comes along and tells the truth about what really happened.
The angry person wants to have an excuse to be angry at something or someone, so they reject the truth, and the people pleaser wants to feel happy so they become agitated when something or someone they like has been exposed as problematic.
Both people, the angry person and the people pleaser are living a fantasy to avoid admitting the truth.
Authentic people can see good and bad no matter how it makes them feel because they are genuine and able and willing to deal with the feelings that come with facing the truth.
Born-again believers are able to face the truth because they are grounded in the peace of the Lord Jesus Christ. Truth is more important to them than anything else.
The angry people and the people pleasers are lazy, they don't want to have to do the work that comes from knowing the truth. The authentic person is ready and willing to work things out, discuss things, give up things, even to the losing of their own lives and some lose family and friends.
People pleasers and angry people are not sacrificial, they will always have an excuse to avoid helping others.
The angry person thinks they are gaining power over others by their intimidation and the people pleaser thinks they will be more popular and liked by others if they make everyone happy. Neither one of these people are helpful to others for emotional and spiritual growth.
It is only through going through the hard things with others that we can be of help. It is through sharing the trials and the joys with others that we build quality meaningful and lifelong friendships.
Matthew 16:24-26 '24 Then Jesus told His disciples, “If anyone wants to come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me. 25 For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. 26 What will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul? Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul?…"
Ecclesiastes 4:10 "for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up!"
Those who walk through life intimidating and bullying others are tearing down others. So also are the people pleasers who never tell the truth that might bring someone out of their trial or encourage them in the midst of their trial. Both types of people are selfish! The people pleasers deny the truth when someone has been harmed, leaving the offended one without support.
Angry people work to turn people against others while the people pleaser denies the reality of the trials of others.
May we be led entirely by the Holy Spirit as born-again believers so that we will be an asset to others.
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