Obey God and Only Obey Our Leaders When They Obey God

If we look to our husband as our authority, then the Holy Spirit takes second place to a human. Husbands and wives walk together because when they got married God made them into one, they are not one over the other, they are one together equally. God did not take a rib from man's back or from his feet; He took the rib from his side, a sign of oneness in purpose.

Matthew 19:5-6 "…5and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

No man can separate what God has joined, and no man can change the dynamic of man and woman walking together side by side.

If you have ever seen that umbrella drawing by Bill Gothard, you will see that it is not Biblical and is damaging to the marriage relationship. It is his concoction, but not from God.

 
I have heard people say that a woman should obey her husband even if he asks her to sin because God has a purpose in that. This is a lie from the devil himself.
The woman who loves God is to honor God first, and because of her honor of God, her husband might become born again.

 
Ephesians 5:22-24 Marriage like Christ and the Church
22 Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything."

Notice we subject ourselves to our husbands only when they obey the Lord. Never forget Annanias and Sapphirah? Sapphirah was killed along with her husband for conspiring with him to lie to the Holy Spirit. And, let's not forget Abigail, who refused to obey her wicked husband; he was killed, and Abigail became the wife of King David.

 
Remember Shadrack, Meshach, and Abednego? They refused to obey the wicked demands of their leader, and God took care of them. Not only did God do that, He also moved the heart of Nebuchadnezzar to be on the side of their God.

We each have different jobs to do and people we answer to, but no one takes priority over God; our leaders are not our gods.