The Fall is not our Model for Marriage

The husband is the protector and leader of the family but he is not a master over them. The wife and husband are one half of one another; they work together, each one in their roles, as you said.

Neither one should be micromanaging one another's roles but they should complement, support, and correct one another as equally.

The man does not tell the woman how to do her homemaking job but supports her decisions in it with occasional suggestions for the man's perspective. And, the woman should do the same for the man.

Here is the problem: people are teaching the church that because of the fall the man will dominate her as she tries to dominate him because of this fallen state. However, that is a condition of the fall, not how husband and wife should act in a Christian relationship. Unsaved people want to dominate one another; born-again people should act differently from the fallen state.

A Christian marriage should not be operating as though still in the fall of man. Because of Christ, we look to Him for our model of marriage, not the fall and not the culture.