Friday, June 3, 2011

Homemaking: The Higher Calling

One of the concepts that has been lost in our culture has been that of the differing roles between men and women.  One role is not greater than another role, just different.  The woman had a lot of power in her home before she decided to step out of her God ordained role as keeper of the home.  She had the power to make or break a home based on her attitude toward her job.  


A woman who does her job well, manages the home as a CEO would manage a company.  The husband is the leader and depends on the capabilities of his wife to run an efficient environment.  


Within that role the wife plans meals, teaches the children, arranges for the cloths for all the family, handles personalities according to God's standards.  She also see to it that nothing enters her home that would be harmful to her family.  She maintains a clean, safe, nurturing and training environment.  Her husband has great confidence in her ability to do this.  She is a decorator, a nurse, a nutritionist, a manager of all the goods and food that enter the home.  She is a gardener, a chef, a counselor, a teacher, and a shopper for the best deals for the greatest quality, she will also be a seamstress.  She is an office manager in the paperwork, the planning of finances, organization of the home office.  She even makes articles and sells them.   


If a woman were to do this job for a wealthy family, earning a wage, she would be said to have a great career.  If she does this for her family without a paycheck, she is said to be a "housewife."  Our culture is silly, when it comes to this, we have denigrated the homemaking career to the position of worthless.  


Most women today in our children's generation don't bother with "managing" their homes, they work outside of it and neglect all the duties that God ordained for them to do, in favor of the almighty dollar and for recognition in the community.  These women go into the world to work under the authority of another person, very often a man and must obey that person to keep their job.  Why then do they call themselves independent and refuse to place themselves under their husbands at home. 


 If a woman does her job of Homemaking as unto the Lord she will  be fulfilled and happy.  Her skills will far exceed those of a woman who does one kind of job outside the home, under restrictions by her boss as to how creative she can be on the job.  At home, I have had wonderful freedom to use whatever skills God has given me, I have never been bored.  


If we are focused on living the Proverbs 31 life as God ordained, we can be much more creative, do it in our own schedule and enjoy the smiles of a husband who feels loved by a woman who will dedicate her entire life to her children and husband.  God placed the woman under the authority of the husband, it is not different than working outside the home under another man or woman who gives you a paycheck, except that God is not pleased with our dedication being to another authority, who is not our husband.  


We are to be devoted to our families, they are always to come first in all our decisions. We must realize and admit that we can not do this if our loyalties are divided.  We tend to admire a missionary who gives up a career to go to the mission field, but we mock a woman who has chosen to obey God and do the same thing for her family.  If we live life, God's way, we will not only be fulfilled but we will have all our needs taken care of.... did we all hear that.... our needs, not wants but needs.  And, I am living proof that we can do this job and be happy and fulfilled.  


We will have difficulties in life, we will make mistakes and commit sins, but if we stay the course, correcting the mistakes and repenting from the sins, God will bless what He knows to be in our heart.  A heart like David’s, a heart that seeks God.  We too can be called the apple of His eyes, as He overlooks our frail humanness to see the Holy Spirit that lives in us and the heart that loves Him.  Ladies, if you are working in the world, go home, dedicate your life to your family and watch the blessing God will have for you as you obey Him.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Can Someone Else Cause Us To Sin?

In the Bible we are reminded of the account of the confrontation of Moses with the Pharo.  God said that each time the Pharo was faced with Moses appeals to let his people go, the Pharo would refuse to do so.  God said that Pharo hardened his own heart in anger against Moses and his God.  And later we see that God said He hardened Pharo’s heart.  Which was true?  Both were true.  God did challenge Pharos knowing with each new plague, Pharo would harden his heart more, so God sent what He knew would cause Pharo to do this.  

When we are confronted with our sin and we explode in anger, refusing to consider our actions,  take it to God in prayer and repent, then we are hardening our hearts a little further.  When others point out our shortcomings, it does not matter their delivery, or their attitude, God is using them to shake us up and expose what is really in our hearts.  If there is an explosion of anger when we are confronted with our sin, then the person who chastised us is not at fault for causing our anger, we have merely let come out of our inner being, that which was already there.  It shows us our inner heart problem of pride and self exhaultation.  

Instead of blaming the person who rebuked us, we need to be taking their message to the Lord in prayer that we might discover our own sinful attitudes, that we might repent and be cleansed from that sin.  If we do not listen to those who would rebuke and correct us, then God will discipline us His way, and very often it is much harsher than the words that our friends and family would say to us.  They can not take our health, our homes, our chidlren, or our security, but God can do all that in His effort to reach our soul.  He can do far more in His discipline of us than any human can do, He can also use evil humans to carry out His will.  We should never take lightly the exhortations, rebukes and corrections of others because they are sent of God to administer training, even if they are not aware of how they are being used.  

It is never wise to take lightly or defend ourselves when confronted with sin.  We ultimately will lose in the long run and perhaps enormously with life long consequences.  It is in our own best interest to repent quickly and sincerly before a Holy and Righteous God, that He may withhold His wrath and discipline from us.  

Lastly, if we are believers, it should be paramount that our Chrsitian witness take presidence over any discomfort we may experience in a rebuke.   Our personal pride and satisfaction is irrelevant in the vast scheme of God's purposes.  We must always seek the greater good for eternity in our evaluation of cercumstances.  

Do we live to please ourselves or do we live to please God?  This is the ultimate question that needs to be asked in every life experience.  If we find ourselves protecting ourselves by avoiding self-confrontation, then we are still walking in pride. If our own desires take presidence over God's greater good, then we are nurturing pride and resisting God.  

Let's seek Him with all our being and then we will see the arrogance and self will begin to take a back seat to His will and purpose.   


Monday, May 16, 2011

Relationships Are Not Scheduled, They Are Established.

Relationships take time and energy.  They take commitment and determination to succeed and grow.  When our relationships are established on superficial smiles and quaint clichés of happy trivialities, they are lacking in the depth that is necessary to sustain them.  We can enjoy these sorts of friendships for a time, but these are the connections that do not last and over time dissipate at the slightest testing.  Perhaps these are not relatinonships at all, but familiarities sterile of weightiness. 

There is a process called distillation, which in the course of heating a mixture in order to condense it into a more pure form of the substance desired, in this process there is a higher quality resulting.   This is the case in quality and lasting relationships.  It is the trials of life that show us what we are made of and what motivates us.  If when the difficulties come, we face them with fortitude and do not shrink away in fear and run from them, we show our enduring love for our friend.

When we face the trials head on, determined to know our friend, and discover our own heart, then we are walking in love.  Christ’s love seeks not it’s own, as He has told us, but it seeks the best for our friend.  Our friendship, if we walk with the Lord, will be evaluated on the basis of God’s Word and His Will.  Do we want our friend to walk with the Lord in holiness, or are we more concerned about enjoying one another in happiness.  God wants us to be distilled, pressed down and shaken together, that we might become strong and spiritually pure. 

Pleasure in our friendship can never be the motivating factor in our walk together, but God’s full purpose must drive us in all that we hope for in our friendship.  Pleasure very often is a byproduct of our Christ like walk with our companion, but not the stimulant.

Those individuals who yearn for penetrating kinship with friends, will walk through life seeking the denseness of fine fabric tightly woven together building a strength that is not easily torn or frayed.  Our desires will always be for the Lord’s best in one another. 

The trials of life only strengthen these sturdy fellowships and the joys are doubled when shared with a friend of quality, one who seeks the Lord in all occasions for His design.  That one stays with us when we are not perfect, and has no expectation that we sustain perfection in order to remain our friends.  But will correct us when we fail and lift us up when we get back on the path again.  That friend will raise his spiritual voice to us when we are feeble and disobedient to Christ and mercifully soften it again when we repent.

Very often our human relationship dynamics reflect our relationship with the Lord.  If we stay focused on the superficial with our friends, chances are good that we are doing the same with our Lord.  Our prayers become shallow and selfish as we use the Lord like we would dance a puppet on a string, requiring Him to fulfill our every desire and ease of life. 

When we seek the Lord with all our heart we see a very different bent in our walk.  We see a heart that regards the commands of God above all else.  That person sees all circumstances as from Him and worthy of praise, whether they be happy or sad. They are all lessons to be learned and attitudes to be altered. 

Let us remember that relationships are established on the basis of much time spent and not on short periods of scheduled time.


Let us also not forget, that if we are careless and flimsy with our friends, we are probably acting the same way toward our Lord.   


Sunday, May 15, 2011

Resisting The Lord?

http://thefinalwordradio.com/media/episodes/2011/05/TFW_11-093_Wed_May_11.mp3

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Let's Obey God Rather Than Man

http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#actorstate

The best explanation of divorce and remarriage that I have seen is contained in the above link.  

When THE LORD, "makes one" no man can undo what He has done.   This is a picture of THE LORDs’ Work and salvation of the believers.  HE makes us a new creation when we repent and trust Christ; this can not be undone any more than the marriage covenant can be undone.  They are both a work of God.  Man can never change what God has done, we can only disobey Him, but we can never nullify His work.  Can we change God's plan for the ages, His plan of salvation, His end times design, His judgments’ or wrath or His perfect will, never!!!!   We have been tainted with our humanness and our culture as we seek to find excuses and loop holes around His will.  We want to be free to do as we please without guilt, so we change what He said and pretend it is real.  

Can we not see the devastation in the lives of the people in our culture from the twisting and distorting of God's Word? Divorce has ended families as we used to know them.  Once children knew a father and a mother living together in one home in stability.  Now we see children shuffled from a father or mother who no longer live with them.  They go from home to home every other week.  They do not have two homes they have no home at all.  The children have multiple mothers and fathers and grandparents, but feel no sense that any of it is permanent.  The non-biological parent lacks the loyalty to his step children that a bio-parent would have.  There is continual dis-harmony in the so called "blended" families.  They are not blended at all, but are a source of devastating insecurity and loneliness.  As the child watches a step parent walk off from them, hand in hand with their "real" child, while the step child feels a sense of abandonment and lovelessness.  The real parent has children by their second marriage leaving the children from the first marriage feeling left out and empty and deserted, even jealous of the child who gets to live with his real parent.  These lonely children become angry, seeking love where ever they can find it, no matter what destruction it may cause to others or themselves.  There is a sense of desperation in their souls.

I have not experienced divorce and remarriage myself, but have watched the carnage in other people who have lived this nightmare.  They have difficulty bonding to anyone or trusting anyone.  They live a life of insecurity that is nearly impossible to undo their entire lives.  It is only through Christ that they can overcome the desolation that has occurred because of selfish, lazy and irresponsible parents.   God does not expect families to be perfect, we all have our problems because we are human, but if we stay together working through the difficulties with Christ as our focus, we have a much better stage for secure children who learn how to turn to Christ in difficulties.  Children, who see conflict and a working to resolve it, are children who can learn commitment to those people and things that matter to God.  

Difficulties are not to be avoided, but to be challenged head on in prayer and commitment to the Lord first and then those we love.  When we realize love is a choice and an obligation we can take our duties more seriously and meet them with resolve.  We can begin obeying God in this way by first ignoring our feelings, they lie to us, then searching God's Word for His way and thirdly obeying what we find there.   Knowing what is right is not enough; we must obey it for it to count.  

God says:  "Therefore the Lord said, 'In as much as these people draw near to Me with their mouths, and honor Me with their lips, but have removed their hearts far from Me, and their fear toward Me is taught by the commandments of men.'"  Isaiah 29:13

He also says: "and in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men."  Matthew 15:9

God said: "For laying aside the commandments of God, you hold the traditions of men --the washing of pitchers and cups, and many other such things you do' and He said to them, "All too well you reject the commandments of God that you may keep your tradition."   Mark 7:8-9

Our teachings about divorce and remarriage in today’s modern church is nothing less than heresy.  It denies Gods perfect will and work and introduces false doctrine that has destroyed the family.  We must stop listening to men and begin praying for God to reveal the truth as we search His word for the answers.  

There will be no hope for our country, as long as we seek men rather than God for human solutions to spiritual problems. 

"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you."  Matthew 6:33
Let's make this our goal and resolve.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

God's Marvelous Creation: Praise His Name!!!

http://www.andiesisle.com/creation/magnificent.html

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Another Great Article on the Biggest Problem We Face Today

Taken from Commandments for Christian Living


HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER
Although the Bible says the ten commandments were written on two tablets of stone (Exodus 24:12; 34:1) it does not tell us how these ten commandments were arranged on those tablets. Five on one and five on the other would seem natural, but is an unnatural division when you consider the themes of the commandments. From ancient times biblical scholars have noticed that the first four commandments concern our relationship with God and the last six, our relationship with others.
It doesn't really matter how the commandments were arranged on the stone tablets, but it is important to note the twin themes. Judaism was the first world religion to combine worship (responsibilities toward God) with ethics (responsibilities toward humankind). The gods on Mt. Olympus were neither ethical in their own behavior nor did they make ethical demands of their worshipers. That cheap faith still has its fans. Neo-pagans have all the comfort and excitement of their religion with none of the inconvenience of a God who gets in their way when they want to do something.
In biblical religion, however, God is the Law-Giver. Ethics is theology at work; the ten commandments are worship in overalls. The commandments speak to both theology (our relationship with God) and ethics (our relationship with others).
The fifth commandment begins the second "table of the law": our responsibility toward one another. In this section God tells us how to become more human by controlling certain physical impulses we share with lower animals � such as anger, hunger and lust. Those activities are certainly natural. In fact, they are essential to our survival. But God calls us to something higher and nobler. He commands us to control what comes naturally so that we do not kill and steal and fornicate just because it appears to our immediate advantage. Anger, hunger and sex are powerful urges within all of us. Like fire, they are good gifts of God. Also, like fire, they become bad when they get out of control. Thus we have the ten commandments to tell us how control our natural inclinations so nobody gets hurt.
What inclination do you think is controlled by the fifth commandment? Most animals instinctively care for their young. Bears and robins will attack you if you assault their babies. Although most species care for their young, none cares for its old � except humans. The fifth commandment calls us to rise above our animal nature. God expects more of you and me than he does of cats and dogs. He commands children to provide for their parents just as parents instinctively provide for their children. "Honor your father and your mother." By honoring the aged we rise above the rest of nature and become our true human selves.
We need to hear again the fifth commandment. Our modern age does not give the elderly the place of honor they had in earlier times and so richly deserve today. Bertrand Russell complained, "I was born in the wrong generation. When I was a young man, no one had any respect for youth. Now I am an old man and no one has any respect for age."
Nearly everyone, from Madison Avenue to the local church, honors youth. Now that's not a bad idea, but remember young age is not the age to which the Bible gives the greatest honor. Moses said, "Show respect for old people and honor them" (Leviticus 19:32). And Peter added, "You younger men must submit yourselves to the older men" (1 Peter 5:5).
I resent the fact that calling someone old sounds insulting. Our culture has twisted the traditional value of old age making something honorable appear disgraceful. In the Bible old age is not a problem, it's a blessing (Isaiah 65:20; Zechariah 8:4-5). For thousands of years to be called an "old man" or "old woman" was a high honor. Nowadays it's an insult. What on earth has happened to our values?
A youth-centered culture is a backward-facing culture. It is a society in which people honor what they used to be instead of what they are going to be.
Age is like money. It isn't how much we have spent, but how much we have left. If we truly believe what we say we believe about eternal life, what we have left is forever. Every birthday takes us one year further from our birthdate and one year closer to our Father's house.
The root of the Hebrew word for honor means to "weigh heavy." The people who weigh me heavy are those who contribute most to my weight: my parents, my wife and my children � to them I owe great respect and honor.
The fifth commandment is addressed primarily to adults. It is not a biblical billy club that frustrated parents can use to beat their rebellious children into submission. Parents who try to get respect from their children by quoting this scripture will be as successful as trying to steer their car by honking their horn.
The fifth commandment has more to do with medical care, old-age pensions, and retirement homes than with disobedient minors. It means quite simply when your Mom and Dad have to depend on you, don't let them down. Honor your father and mother.
Although Social Security, Medicare, and old-age pensions have largely taken over the kind of responsibilities enjoined by this commandment, no system can honor your parents for you. Many systems are terribly impersonal and even insultingly dehumanizing.
When parents are no longer productive members of society, they need more than ever to be honored and reassured of their worth.
The fifth commandment commands honor for your parents but does not limit honor to them alone. It doesn't say, "Honor only your father and mother. That's just the beginning. The apostle Peter said, "Respect everyone" (1 Peter 2:17). Not only should children honor their parents, but parents should honor their children. The rich should honor the poor, and the poor should honor the rich. The weak should honor the strong, and the strong should honor the weak.
Jesus gave this commandment its highest application when he declared "Truly I tell you, just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me" (Matthew 25:40). You honor others by treating them with the same high respect you owe to the person of Jesus Christ. If you treat others the way you treat Jesus, you will honor not only your parents but every living soul.
Honor takes many different forms. It is much more than greeting cards, candy and flowers on Mother's Day. The way in which parents honor their children, for instance, differs from the way children honor their parents. It is a dishonor to treat everyone alike without respect to differing needs and responsibilities. True honor takes into account the age and situation of the people involved and the nature of the relationship. You're young only once, but you can stay immature the rest of your life.
One of the reasons the generation gap is such a problem is that it is not wide enough. Too many adults try to act as though they were teenagers, and too many teenagers try to act as though they were adults. With all the actors reading the lines of someone else, it is no wonder the play gets confusing. Children cannot honor their parents while refusing to accept the role of dependents. And parents cannot honor their children while evading their parental responsibilities.
To make matters even more complicated, the roles keep changing. By the time we realize our parents may have been right, we usually have children who think we're wrong. As children grow older, parental honor takes into account their growing competency, responsibility, and independence.
Children, likewise, honor their parents in different ways. To a small child, honor means obedience. To an adolescent, it means respect. To an adult child, it meanskindness, thoughtfulness, and care of parents.
A boy will never become a man and a girl will never become a woman if they must always obey their parents. Though children eventually outgrow their need to obey their parents, they never outgrow their duty to honor their parents. The time may come when aged parents must obey their children. But even then, and especially then, children must find ways to honor their parents, to affirm their dignity and worth.
The apostle Paul reminds us that the fifth commandment is the first commandment with a promise: "so that all may go well with you, and you may live a long time in the land" (Ephesians 6:3). When a Sunday School teacher asked a kid what that meant his interpretation was, "I better do what my parents say or they'll kill me." Though there may be some parents who would not dispute that understanding, I don't think that's what Moses or Paul had in mind. "That� you may live a long time in the land" is not a guarantee of extra years of life to individuals who honor their parents. It is a promise to preserve the social order that respects preceding generations. Remember the commandments were given after Israel left Egypt and before they entered and occupied the Promised Land. They were a brand new nation. So God gave them laws and a covenant to show them how to make it work. Good individuals may die young, but cultures in which people honor the aged endure with stability.
One of the reasons that Chinese culture has survived thousands of years through many political and social revolutions is that through it all, they obeyed the fifth commandment � not because it was spoken by God through Moses, but because it was wise. "[That] you may live a long time in the land" is not a tempting bribe to good conduct, but a statement of fact about nations and tribes and families in which honor is found.
Remember, the Bible doesn't tell who is to honor you, but whom you are to honor � your parents, your children and everyone else. You obey the fifth commandment, not by demanding that others honor you but by taking the initiative to honor them.