Thursday, July 2, 2015
Narcissists Are Sneaky!
Wonderful news, you do not have to stay in a relationships with a destructive narcissist. Of course I am not speaking about marriage, that is a different matter. In the case of marriage one has to learn how to deal with a narc without violating their Christian principles.
I meet many people who are narcissists, some worse than others, but all are toxic in terms of human relationships. It is impossible to develop a caring, loving and meaningful relationships with someone who flies in the face of every principles of God.
God mentions the narcissist in the Bible. Of course the term Narcissist does not come from the Bible it is the secular term used to describe the condition of humanity in the end days.
2 Timothy 3:1-7 is the description of these destroyers. Sadly, this miserable persona is growing exponentially as we approach the time of the rapture.
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these.
6 For among them are those who enter into households and captivate weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses,
7 always learning and never able to come to the [e]knowledge of the truth."
Notice in verse 5 God tells us to get away from these people. No where in the Word are we required to remain with those who are destructive in relationships, in the hope that our influence will make a difference. These are the kind of people who cannot be reached by man, God must do it without us.
The seculars will say that narcissists cannot change and that they get worse as they age, this is true.......without Christ. However if there is the tiniest chink in their narcissistic armor God can get through, it is not likely nor is it common but there are stories of people who were once full blown narcs who became born again and will speak about it. There is hope for the narc, but not through reasoning with him, words or spending time with them, they must be left to God without us.
I am going to post an article that describes the condition and thinking of the narcissist, it may open the floodgates of understanding for those who have known something was not right but couldn't put their finger on the problem. They just knew they sensed an aggression and counterfeit love, that feigned kindness but really left you feeling flat as though you were just "punked", tricked into believing something that was exactly the opposite. Contempt is well hidden with the narc until we clearly say no to them or correct them in any way, then the real them emerges.
I meet many people who are narcissists, some worse than others, but all are toxic in terms of human relationships. It is impossible to develop a caring, loving and meaningful relationships with someone who flies in the face of every principles of God.
God mentions the narcissist in the Bible. Of course the term Narcissist does not come from the Bible it is the secular term used to describe the condition of humanity in the end days.
2 Timothy 3:1-7 is the description of these destroyers. Sadly, this miserable persona is growing exponentially as we approach the time of the rapture.
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these.
6 For among them are those who enter into households and captivate weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses,
7 always learning and never able to come to the [e]knowledge of the truth."
Notice in verse 5 God tells us to get away from these people. No where in the Word are we required to remain with those who are destructive in relationships, in the hope that our influence will make a difference. These are the kind of people who cannot be reached by man, God must do it without us.
The seculars will say that narcissists cannot change and that they get worse as they age, this is true.......without Christ. However if there is the tiniest chink in their narcissistic armor God can get through, it is not likely nor is it common but there are stories of people who were once full blown narcs who became born again and will speak about it. There is hope for the narc, but not through reasoning with him, words or spending time with them, they must be left to God without us.
I am going to post an article that describes the condition and thinking of the narcissist, it may open the floodgates of understanding for those who have known something was not right but couldn't put their finger on the problem. They just knew they sensed an aggression and counterfeit love, that feigned kindness but really left you feeling flat as though you were just "punked", tricked into believing something that was exactly the opposite. Contempt is well hidden with the narc until we clearly say no to them or correct them in any way, then the real them emerges.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
Lying Destroys While Truth Builds
In this day that we are living in, lying has become completely acceptable except in court. Many people lie regularly and think nothing of it. As long as we believe that lying brings about something that is good or that we want, we feel justified.
Lying can become an uncontrollable addiction if one does not realize how much they are doing it and confess it to God to be cleansed. If we find ourselves in an addiction to lying, the best thing to do is to pray for cleansing and even confess to a trusted friend that we have had a problem with it, accountability is a wonderful motivator in ending a sinful addiction.
The devil was thrown out of heaven because of lies about himself. He used lying in the garden to deceive and corrupt mankind. Satan is called the father of lies, everything he does, says and is, is demonstrated in lies.
Proverbs 6:16-19 "There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers."
Proverbs 19:9 "A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish."
Proverbs 12:22 "Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight."
Psalm 101:7 "No one who practices deceit shall dwell in my house; no one who utters lies shall continue before my eyes."
Colossians 3:9-10 "Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator."
Luke 8:17 "For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light."
When we lie, we must believe that no one knows or can see it. God sees everything, there is no hiding anything from God.
2 Chronicles 16:9 "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him. Herein thou hast done foolishly: therefore from henceforth thou shalt have wars."
The value of a clear and pure conscience is far more desirable than what we think we gain by lying.
Lying can become an uncontrollable addiction if one does not realize how much they are doing it and confess it to God to be cleansed. If we find ourselves in an addiction to lying, the best thing to do is to pray for cleansing and even confess to a trusted friend that we have had a problem with it, accountability is a wonderful motivator in ending a sinful addiction.
The devil was thrown out of heaven because of lies about himself. He used lying in the garden to deceive and corrupt mankind. Satan is called the father of lies, everything he does, says and is, is demonstrated in lies.
Proverbs 6:16-19 "There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers."
Proverbs 19:9 "A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish."
Proverbs 12:22 "Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight."
Psalm 101:7 "No one who practices deceit shall dwell in my house; no one who utters lies shall continue before my eyes."
Colossians 3:9-10 "Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator."
Luke 8:17 "For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light."
When we lie, we must believe that no one knows or can see it. God sees everything, there is no hiding anything from God.
2 Chronicles 16:9 "For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him. Herein thou hast done foolishly: therefore from henceforth thou shalt have wars."
The value of a clear and pure conscience is far more desirable than what we think we gain by lying.
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
Drop the Arrogant Attitude and Fear God!
When I see believers "claiming things" from God as though He is a puppet on a string, it reminds me of what it feels like for our children to speak to us in condescending tones as though we are the child and they are the adult.
There should be such reverence for God that we are fearful to speak to Him in any other tone than meekly obedient.
If we sought after the Lord, the way our dogs follow us, looking up at us for all their needs, trusting us for all their protections and unquestioningly remaining with us no matter what, we would understand Who Christ is!
Most believers I know treat Christ like He has a responsibility to us rather than us having a responsibility to Him.
We owe Christ every thing, our attitude ought to be seeking Him for His will, not commanding Him what He should do.
Hebrews 10:31 "It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God."
There should be such reverence for God that we are fearful to speak to Him in any other tone than meekly obedient.
If we sought after the Lord, the way our dogs follow us, looking up at us for all their needs, trusting us for all their protections and unquestioningly remaining with us no matter what, we would understand Who Christ is!
Most believers I know treat Christ like He has a responsibility to us rather than us having a responsibility to Him.
We owe Christ every thing, our attitude ought to be seeking Him for His will, not commanding Him what He should do.
Hebrews 10:31 "It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God."
How Narcissists Think
How Narcissists think:
All narcissists must have the right to express their opinion but rage when we speak ours if it differs with theirs.
It is important to remember this, because if the narc rages, it is not because we did anything worthy of rage, it is merely a tactic to unnerve their target. In their minds they have won if they have managed to intimidate and silence their target.
Liberalism is this kind of animal, pushing their ideas down our throats through punitive actions and laws. They freely say anything they want but are completely intolerant of an apposing viewpoint.
They accuse their opponents of doing what they are doing but their opponents are not, lying is completely acceptable to these types.
This tactic of overt intimidation through calculated rage is common in families. Many years ago it was considered rude and very few people would do it, there was a measure of respect for a person even if we disagreed on something. Now, almost all disagreement is met with hate and verbal violence.
We are living in an age where bad is good and good is bad, as the scripture describes a condition of the end times.
If we are informed, equipped with knowledge and the help of the Holy Spirit we can remain calm, emotionally unaffected by the attacks and strong enough to clearly state our views without wavering.
When we are not taking anything personally knowing that we are fighting against a spiritual enemy not a physical one, we will not feel compelled to defend ourselves, let God do that while we peacefully and unexcitedly speak no matter what the reaction.
What a tranquility comes over us when we don't have to "win" as the narc believes they have to do. Our mission is to speak truth in love, while the narc is a mass of upturned soul, we ought to feel sorry for them, they have to work hard to keep in top position in their own minds. They depend on others cooperating and validating them. As a believer, we don't have to impress anyone, we merely trust Christ and leave Him with the results.
Praise the Lord that we don't have to be special or top man in anything, Christ is our all! Serving Him knowing we are nothing is the best place to be, we have nothing to prove for ourselves, we are free from all encumbrance of self!
All narcissists must have the right to express their opinion but rage when we speak ours if it differs with theirs.
It is important to remember this, because if the narc rages, it is not because we did anything worthy of rage, it is merely a tactic to unnerve their target. In their minds they have won if they have managed to intimidate and silence their target.
Liberalism is this kind of animal, pushing their ideas down our throats through punitive actions and laws. They freely say anything they want but are completely intolerant of an apposing viewpoint.
They accuse their opponents of doing what they are doing but their opponents are not, lying is completely acceptable to these types.
This tactic of overt intimidation through calculated rage is common in families. Many years ago it was considered rude and very few people would do it, there was a measure of respect for a person even if we disagreed on something. Now, almost all disagreement is met with hate and verbal violence.
We are living in an age where bad is good and good is bad, as the scripture describes a condition of the end times.
If we are informed, equipped with knowledge and the help of the Holy Spirit we can remain calm, emotionally unaffected by the attacks and strong enough to clearly state our views without wavering.
When we are not taking anything personally knowing that we are fighting against a spiritual enemy not a physical one, we will not feel compelled to defend ourselves, let God do that while we peacefully and unexcitedly speak no matter what the reaction.
What a tranquility comes over us when we don't have to "win" as the narc believes they have to do. Our mission is to speak truth in love, while the narc is a mass of upturned soul, we ought to feel sorry for them, they have to work hard to keep in top position in their own minds. They depend on others cooperating and validating them. As a believer, we don't have to impress anyone, we merely trust Christ and leave Him with the results.
Praise the Lord that we don't have to be special or top man in anything, Christ is our all! Serving Him knowing we are nothing is the best place to be, we have nothing to prove for ourselves, we are free from all encumbrance of self!
The Prideful Cannot Be Taught
The Pandora's box of evil has been unleashed in our culture and there is no way to put is back.
2 Timothy 3:1-7
Divorce and remarriage,
Same sex marriage,
Legalization of mind altering drugs,
Teaching of wicked immoral acts being taught to our children,
Movies that promote excessive and gruesome violence and every other sin,
Children bossing their parents while the parents cower at the voice of their children,
Self esteem taught in every institution in this country including the apostate church,
Excessive use of prescription drugs, often when not necessary,
Over indulgence in food, alcohol and pleasure of every kind,
Punishing truth tellers through the loss of job or business,
Disrespect for parents on every level,
One parent families are becoming more common than marriage,
Shacking up is completely accepted as normal and nature as is pregnancy outside of marriage,
No sense of honor or respect for elders or anyone in authority,
Anarchy everywhere!
In short, the celebration of every sin, the defense of the wicked while demeaning the righteous is popular now everywhere.
AND WE THINK WE CAN TURN THIS AROUND BY EDUCATING SOMEONE!
It is impossible to educate the unteachable. Even those who claim to be believers defend many of the sins, if not all , listed.
2 Timothy 3:1-7
Divorce and remarriage,
Same sex marriage,
Legalization of mind altering drugs,
Teaching of wicked immoral acts being taught to our children,
Movies that promote excessive and gruesome violence and every other sin,
Children bossing their parents while the parents cower at the voice of their children,
Self esteem taught in every institution in this country including the apostate church,
Excessive use of prescription drugs, often when not necessary,
Over indulgence in food, alcohol and pleasure of every kind,
Punishing truth tellers through the loss of job or business,
Disrespect for parents on every level,
One parent families are becoming more common than marriage,
Shacking up is completely accepted as normal and nature as is pregnancy outside of marriage,
No sense of honor or respect for elders or anyone in authority,
Anarchy everywhere!
In short, the celebration of every sin, the defense of the wicked while demeaning the righteous is popular now everywhere.
AND WE THINK WE CAN TURN THIS AROUND BY EDUCATING SOMEONE!
It is impossible to educate the unteachable. Even those who claim to be believers defend many of the sins, if not all , listed.
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