The reaction of the "liberal left" today and even some conservatives is one of self aggrandizement over truth.
The liberal is like the bully brother who is are hitting his little sister in the arm while shouting at the sister to stop hitting him, while laughing. The sister is not hitting she is being hit but the narcissist claims she is the one doing it. This is designed to cause frustration with the intent of fostering anger and eventually a blow up. If the narcissist can get their target to blow up in anger, they can point the finger at the anger while ignoring the bullies actions.
This is the state of our irrational world today. The liberals claim the conservatives are abusive for spanking their children so they will learn to be decent citizens. While the liberals are defending the murder of innocent babies in the womb because they are inconvenient.
Does anyone else see the irrational nature of the WAY narcissistic people think?
They do whatever they want, whine, cry and carry out revenge on others while raging at those who wish to protect and defend the innocent babies.
Liberal who are lovers of sinfulness will always accuse others of evil when they are the ones perpetrating it every day of their life. We know who is at the bottom of this mess, its the devil. Many people who act irrationally are controlled by the devil and his minions.
Narcissistic liberals think they are free while remaining in bondage to the evil one .They claim Christians are in bondage when the Christians remain free from guilt, shame and mean spirited actions.
Freedom to sin and live selfishly as the narcissist does, keeps them child like in the way they think. When someone processes information in terms of their own selfishness, they will not see truth, they will twist what they see to fit their desired belief.
The one who hates the believer will claim they are mean for preaching righteousness and obedience to God. They will claim the believer is forcing others to comply when it is the narcissist who forces and punishes when they don't get their way.
The born again believer speaks truth from their heart according to the leading of the Holy Spirit. The narcissist speak lies from their heart that is led by satan himself.
When one resists God long enough their thinking becomes distorted, the WAY they process information will determine their attitudes and actions. If they do not like someone because they have been corrected by that person, they will seek to frame the events they see in a negative light, even when the event was good and righteous.
This is happening everywhere all the time now, in politics, in churches, in schools and in families. The devil is busy, but he does not have to have sway over born again believers.
James 4:6-8 "6 But He gives us more grace. This is why it says: “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” 7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.…"
Never respond to a fool, if you can avoid them, do so as commanded in 2 Timothy 3:1-5. We know what these people look like, if we obey God we will remain innocent in our interactions with wicked ones without reaction and free from guilt.
They will attempt to make you feel guilty, do not take on false guilt, it makes you an easier target.
Ephesians 6:11
"Put on the full armor of God, so that you can make your stand against the devil's schemes."1 Peter 5:6
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, so that in due time He may exalt you.
1 Peter 5:6-8 "6 Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, 7 casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 8 Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
Proverbs 26:4-6 "…4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be like him. 5 Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he become wise in his own eyes. 6 Like cutting off one’s own feet or drinking violence is the sending of a message by the hand of a fool.…"
Tuesday, June 19, 2018
Monday, June 18, 2018
Only Five Virgins Were Saved
Five of the ten virgins went out to meet the Lord, but they had no oil, they were not born again and they did not have the Holy Spirit, but thought they were saved.
The Scapegoat is Assigned all the Contempt
The scapegoated person in the family is the one who is assigned all the contempt of the family. If you were to tell the narcissist they were acting in mean ways, they would further mock and demean in an attempt to gain you back under their thumb. Denying what you have experienced is a favored tactic of the narcissistic family.
When mocking demeaning and isolating you from the pack doesn't work, then they employ another tactic, that is to use half truths in gossip as well as judging things wrongly about you while then passing them on as fact to others they wish to turn against you.
As a scapegoated child grows into an adult they have old tapes that play in their heads. Tapes that say, "you are stupid", "you don't know anything" and "no one really likes you."
Having lived in a narcissistic family as the scapegoat, I can tell you that it is my assertion that the devil is in control of the minds of these people. They are actually convinced that something is wrong with you, while they play their irrational games that come out of deep jealousy and contempt. When asked what they hate about you they refuse to answer and further mock to distract from the question.
The jealousy does not have to be over money, status or accomplishment, it can merely be that you enjoy your own life as it is. Narcissists are unhappy people clamoring continually to be special and better than others. It is a threat to them when someone is strong in their beliefs and cannot be controlled by others.
The narcissist must be in control of the emotions and actions of their scapegoated target in order to feel whole. They cannot feel whole without dominating others. But they don't attempt to dominate those they admire, based on their accomplishments or fame, only those they perceive as beneath them.
The scapegoat is often the one who is an empath, one who feels and cares deeply about others, this is a threat to the narcissist since their soul is inwardly selfish. They cannot tolerate anyone who is kind, kindness to the narcissist is for the purpose of self elevation, not actually for the person they are showing friendliness toward.
The confident one is a threat to the narcissist. Those who are confident, one who knows what they believe and tells the truth about it, cannot be tolerated by the narcissist. The entire world of the narcissist is based on pretension, phony kindness and good deeds designed to glorify self.
I have met abused women who told the truth about the abuse they experienced, who were rejected by the entire family for outing the narcissist, but the narcissist continued to be loved and fawned over as though they had done nothing wrong.
The narcissistic family system always defends the abuser and negates the victim. Our entire culture is operating this way often!
We see this in school when there is a bully who picks on a child all the time, finally the bullied child fights back and both children are taken to the principles office and punished as though both were at fault.
Sadly there are many people who believe if there is a fight, then both are at fault. I do not subscribe to this faulty thinking. I am an advocate of the principles sitting down and talking with the students to be able to come to the truth. After it is discerned that the bully started it all and the victim was just attempting to defend themselves, then the bully should be punished and the victim should be admonished to run away and tell on the bully instead of fight back. But no punishment should come to the victim that defended themselves.
We live in a culture that thinks if someone answers a narcissist back, it is the one who answers them back that is the bully. In other words if someone in the room is rude, the target of that rudeness tells them they are being rude, the entire room gets on the side of the rude person. After all, they should be allowed to be rude without any challenge about it.
Yes, often it is wise to ignore a rudeness to avoid fights, but telling the truth about a rude person should never be punished. We live in a rebellious world now, the evil is defended and the righteous are punished.
I remember an instance in which I was at a holiday family gathering, when I was rudely treated by a child and the entire room defended that child. Here is that story:
I walked into a dinning room that had not yet been set for the meal. There were eight empty chairs around the table. I sat in one of the chairs, the child of a relative walked up to me and declared, "that's my chair", I pointed to all the other chairs around the table and said, "there are a lot of empty chairs here, just pick one and sit in it." The adults in the room were angry with me for not giving up my chair to a bratty child. There was no special reason she had to have that chair, but she demanded it because I was sitting in it.
This is the sort of irrational mess we lived in all the time while with family members. The adults were as bratty as the children. My question at the end of it was, "why didn't one adult in the room chastise that child for being disrespectful." The answer came to me, they were all brats and were disrespectful themselves.
As children we were raised to give up our chair when an adult entered the room. To be in a room full of people who didn't understand this basic act of respect was astonishing to me.
When you are the scapegoat in the family, for whatever reason, in my case I was the "radical Christian", then everything you do is wrong, even when it is merely expressing truth and showing a child the need for manners and respect toward their elders.
I have many stories just like this, in which children were indulged to disrespect authority figures merely because the authority had a standard for politeness and love. This has been my world most of my life, narcissistic family members on both sides who didn't understand basic kindness, sadly some of these were Christians.
Those who love Christ do not act this way and are appalled when they see others acting this way. So you have a small clue as to why I have chosen to go no contact with most family members. The ones who are not particularly narcissistic do not defend righteousness, they stand back allowing the evil to have its way and feign plausible deniability, as though they were not a part of it.
Shame on those who are not narcissists and do not speak up for the down trodden.
Proverbs 2:7-9 "…7 He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk with integrity, 8 to guard the paths of justice and protect the way of His saints. 9 Then you will discern righteousness and justice and equity—every good path."
When mocking demeaning and isolating you from the pack doesn't work, then they employ another tactic, that is to use half truths in gossip as well as judging things wrongly about you while then passing them on as fact to others they wish to turn against you.
As a scapegoated child grows into an adult they have old tapes that play in their heads. Tapes that say, "you are stupid", "you don't know anything" and "no one really likes you."
Having lived in a narcissistic family as the scapegoat, I can tell you that it is my assertion that the devil is in control of the minds of these people. They are actually convinced that something is wrong with you, while they play their irrational games that come out of deep jealousy and contempt. When asked what they hate about you they refuse to answer and further mock to distract from the question.
The jealousy does not have to be over money, status or accomplishment, it can merely be that you enjoy your own life as it is. Narcissists are unhappy people clamoring continually to be special and better than others. It is a threat to them when someone is strong in their beliefs and cannot be controlled by others.
The narcissist must be in control of the emotions and actions of their scapegoated target in order to feel whole. They cannot feel whole without dominating others. But they don't attempt to dominate those they admire, based on their accomplishments or fame, only those they perceive as beneath them.
The scapegoat is often the one who is an empath, one who feels and cares deeply about others, this is a threat to the narcissist since their soul is inwardly selfish. They cannot tolerate anyone who is kind, kindness to the narcissist is for the purpose of self elevation, not actually for the person they are showing friendliness toward.
The confident one is a threat to the narcissist. Those who are confident, one who knows what they believe and tells the truth about it, cannot be tolerated by the narcissist. The entire world of the narcissist is based on pretension, phony kindness and good deeds designed to glorify self.
I have met abused women who told the truth about the abuse they experienced, who were rejected by the entire family for outing the narcissist, but the narcissist continued to be loved and fawned over as though they had done nothing wrong.
The narcissistic family system always defends the abuser and negates the victim. Our entire culture is operating this way often!
We see this in school when there is a bully who picks on a child all the time, finally the bullied child fights back and both children are taken to the principles office and punished as though both were at fault.
Sadly there are many people who believe if there is a fight, then both are at fault. I do not subscribe to this faulty thinking. I am an advocate of the principles sitting down and talking with the students to be able to come to the truth. After it is discerned that the bully started it all and the victim was just attempting to defend themselves, then the bully should be punished and the victim should be admonished to run away and tell on the bully instead of fight back. But no punishment should come to the victim that defended themselves.
We live in a culture that thinks if someone answers a narcissist back, it is the one who answers them back that is the bully. In other words if someone in the room is rude, the target of that rudeness tells them they are being rude, the entire room gets on the side of the rude person. After all, they should be allowed to be rude without any challenge about it.
Yes, often it is wise to ignore a rudeness to avoid fights, but telling the truth about a rude person should never be punished. We live in a rebellious world now, the evil is defended and the righteous are punished.
I remember an instance in which I was at a holiday family gathering, when I was rudely treated by a child and the entire room defended that child. Here is that story:
I walked into a dinning room that had not yet been set for the meal. There were eight empty chairs around the table. I sat in one of the chairs, the child of a relative walked up to me and declared, "that's my chair", I pointed to all the other chairs around the table and said, "there are a lot of empty chairs here, just pick one and sit in it." The adults in the room were angry with me for not giving up my chair to a bratty child. There was no special reason she had to have that chair, but she demanded it because I was sitting in it.
This is the sort of irrational mess we lived in all the time while with family members. The adults were as bratty as the children. My question at the end of it was, "why didn't one adult in the room chastise that child for being disrespectful." The answer came to me, they were all brats and were disrespectful themselves.
As children we were raised to give up our chair when an adult entered the room. To be in a room full of people who didn't understand this basic act of respect was astonishing to me.
When you are the scapegoat in the family, for whatever reason, in my case I was the "radical Christian", then everything you do is wrong, even when it is merely expressing truth and showing a child the need for manners and respect toward their elders.
I have many stories just like this, in which children were indulged to disrespect authority figures merely because the authority had a standard for politeness and love. This has been my world most of my life, narcissistic family members on both sides who didn't understand basic kindness, sadly some of these were Christians.
Those who love Christ do not act this way and are appalled when they see others acting this way. So you have a small clue as to why I have chosen to go no contact with most family members. The ones who are not particularly narcissistic do not defend righteousness, they stand back allowing the evil to have its way and feign plausible deniability, as though they were not a part of it.
Shame on those who are not narcissists and do not speak up for the down trodden.
Proverbs 2:7-9 "…7 He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk with integrity, 8 to guard the paths of justice and protect the way of His saints. 9 Then you will discern righteousness and justice and equity—every good path."
Saturday, June 16, 2018
Let No One Diminish Our Walk
When family causes us to diminish our walk with Christ then they have become idols to us. We love people, but we follow Christ even if we have to give up those people who distract us from Him.
Luke 14:26 " 26 “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters — yes, even his own life — he cannot be My disciple."
The above verse In context of the Bible, tells us that God called us to honor our father and mother and love our families. However, when we have to choose between God and family, then we are to choose God.
Losing family is minor compared to dishonoring God. We will lose family when God comes first, unless that family also loves Christ. It is rare these days that entire families have trusted Christ, mostly believers walk alone without family support or love.
We are shown in the Scriptures that this will be the end times condition. There will be and is now little faith upon the earth, everyone is doing what is right in their own eyes and most people will be hostile to Christ. Learn to accept this, it will help us to carry on no matter what comes against us.
2 Timothy 4:15-17 "15 You too should beware of him, for he has vigorously opposed our message. 16 At my first defense, no one stood with me, but everyone deserted me. May it not be charged against them. 17 But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me, so that through me the message would be fully proclaimed, and all the Gentiles would hear it. So I was delivered from the mouth of the lion."
Luke 14:26 " 26 “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters — yes, even his own life — he cannot be My disciple."
The above verse In context of the Bible, tells us that God called us to honor our father and mother and love our families. However, when we have to choose between God and family, then we are to choose God.
Losing family is minor compared to dishonoring God. We will lose family when God comes first, unless that family also loves Christ. It is rare these days that entire families have trusted Christ, mostly believers walk alone without family support or love.
We are shown in the Scriptures that this will be the end times condition. There will be and is now little faith upon the earth, everyone is doing what is right in their own eyes and most people will be hostile to Christ. Learn to accept this, it will help us to carry on no matter what comes against us.
2 Timothy 4:15-17 "15 You too should beware of him, for he has vigorously opposed our message. 16 At my first defense, no one stood with me, but everyone deserted me. May it not be charged against them. 17 But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me, so that through me the message would be fully proclaimed, and all the Gentiles would hear it. So I was delivered from the mouth of the lion."
Not "Pastor" but "pastors"
The machine is too big now.
The entire culture thinks something is weird about a gathering that has a group of elders as the leaders.
The pew people clamor for a leader just like Israel did when it was their downfall. God wanted to be their leader, but they wanted a man like the other nations. That is a sort of picture of what is going on in the church gatherings today.
God never appointed one man over any gathering, He commanded that the apostles assign elders and they never dictated, they preached and led by example.
Whenever man attempts to do things his own way, thinking he is helping God, it always turns out badly.
Acts 14:23
"And when they had appointed elders for them in every church, with prayer and fasting they committed them to the Lord in whom they had believed."
Titus 1:5
"This is why I left you in Crete, so that you might put what remained into order, and appoint elders in every town as I directed you—"
A very good article on the misuse of the bible verses to support paid pastor positions is below:
The entire culture thinks something is weird about a gathering that has a group of elders as the leaders.
The pew people clamor for a leader just like Israel did when it was their downfall. God wanted to be their leader, but they wanted a man like the other nations. That is a sort of picture of what is going on in the church gatherings today.
God never appointed one man over any gathering, He commanded that the apostles assign elders and they never dictated, they preached and led by example.
Whenever man attempts to do things his own way, thinking he is helping God, it always turns out badly.
Acts 14:23
"And when they had appointed elders for them in every church, with prayer and fasting they committed them to the Lord in whom they had believed."
Titus 1:5
"This is why I left you in Crete, so that you might put what remained into order, and appoint elders in every town as I directed you—"
A very good article on the misuse of the bible verses to support paid pastor positions is below:
The Deception of Flattery
People who are uncomfortable around us even before they know any thing about us are experiencing the conviction of Christ in us. They think its us, but its Christ in us.
Have you noticed that even family members will make up stories about you based on that uncomfortable feeling they have, not based on facts.
When you are bold for Christ you become a target for daring to presume to know truth. Since most people are not sure of what they believe, they are easily manipulated into believing things that are false. Perhaps because their ego is stroked by flattery first before they hear the guess of others who seek to undermine their targets support system.
Those who are stroked by flattery will believe everything that is said to them about the person who makes them uncomfortable. Flattery disarms all sense of evaluation of what is said.
Proverbs 29:5
"A man who flatters his neighbor spreads a net for his feet."
Proverbs 28:23
"Whoever rebukes a man will afterward find more favor than he who flatters with his tongue."
Job 32:21-22
"I will not show partiality to any man or use flattery toward any person. For I do not know how to flatter, else my Maker would soon take me away."
The tactic of a gossip is to flatter the one they are speaking to before laying on the gossip about another person. Building pride and superiority in the one who hears the gossip makes it more likely they will believe the gossip.
WATCH OUT FOR THOSE WHO FLATTER TO GAIN ADVANTAGE.
When there is favoritism there is always flattery and gossip present.
Romans 16:18
"For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive."
Jude 1:16
"These are grumblers, malcontents, following their own sinful desires; they are loud-mouthed boasters, showing favoritism to gain advantage."
Have you noticed that even family members will make up stories about you based on that uncomfortable feeling they have, not based on facts.
When you are bold for Christ you become a target for daring to presume to know truth. Since most people are not sure of what they believe, they are easily manipulated into believing things that are false. Perhaps because their ego is stroked by flattery first before they hear the guess of others who seek to undermine their targets support system.
Those who are stroked by flattery will believe everything that is said to them about the person who makes them uncomfortable. Flattery disarms all sense of evaluation of what is said.
Proverbs 29:5
"A man who flatters his neighbor spreads a net for his feet."
Proverbs 28:23
"Whoever rebukes a man will afterward find more favor than he who flatters with his tongue."
Job 32:21-22
"I will not show partiality to any man or use flattery toward any person. For I do not know how to flatter, else my Maker would soon take me away."
The tactic of a gossip is to flatter the one they are speaking to before laying on the gossip about another person. Building pride and superiority in the one who hears the gossip makes it more likely they will believe the gossip.
WATCH OUT FOR THOSE WHO FLATTER TO GAIN ADVANTAGE.
When there is favoritism there is always flattery and gossip present.
Romans 16:18
"For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive."
Jude 1:16
"These are grumblers, malcontents, following their own sinful desires; they are loud-mouthed boasters, showing favoritism to gain advantage."
Rage is a Sign of an Angry Spirit
Those who have been born again have a changed nature, they no longer love sin, they hate it. They also have these character qualities, that ultimately lead them to proper actions and attitudes;
Galatians 5:22-23
"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
Anyone who rages or acts superior on a regular basis, mocking and demeaning when it seems as though nothing happened to cause it, then we may be watching a non-believer.
Those who have been born again will not be angry enough at anything to rage over it. It takes an inner anger, even when unseen, that emerges when there is the slightest disagreement or injustice.
Rage is different from adamant or animated correction. Rage comes from the soul of a very angry person. We can be intense about our position without raging. Raging is a very big clue about the character of a person.
Proverbs 29:8-10 "…8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life."
Believers may have a weak moment in their infancy stage of growth, in which they become angry at a challenge, but as they walk with the Lord they will become ashamed of their anger, confess it and move on to a calmer spirit. The Holy Spirit will convict of sin until the believer confesses it.
When someone confesses their angry spirit and asks the Lord to change their heart, then we will see the anger falling away.
1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
Those who are born again grow in holiness, those who are not remain defensive of their sinfulness, even prideful that they do as they please.
Next time someone is in sin and becomes angry at the suggestion that they should stop sinning, they often will say, "God knows my heart", be sure to let them know that God does know their heart, He knows it is rebellious against Him and must choose to confess that sin and forsake it.
Proverbs 28:13-14 "13 He who conceals his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them will find mercy. 14 Blessed is the man who is always reverent, but he who hardens his heart falls into trouble."
Galatians 5:22-23
"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
Anyone who rages or acts superior on a regular basis, mocking and demeaning when it seems as though nothing happened to cause it, then we may be watching a non-believer.
Those who have been born again will not be angry enough at anything to rage over it. It takes an inner anger, even when unseen, that emerges when there is the slightest disagreement or injustice.
Rage is different from adamant or animated correction. Rage comes from the soul of a very angry person. We can be intense about our position without raging. Raging is a very big clue about the character of a person.
Proverbs 29:8-10 "…8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life."
Believers may have a weak moment in their infancy stage of growth, in which they become angry at a challenge, but as they walk with the Lord they will become ashamed of their anger, confess it and move on to a calmer spirit. The Holy Spirit will convict of sin until the believer confesses it.
When someone confesses their angry spirit and asks the Lord to change their heart, then we will see the anger falling away.
1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
Those who are born again grow in holiness, those who are not remain defensive of their sinfulness, even prideful that they do as they please.
Next time someone is in sin and becomes angry at the suggestion that they should stop sinning, they often will say, "God knows my heart", be sure to let them know that God does know their heart, He knows it is rebellious against Him and must choose to confess that sin and forsake it.
Proverbs 28:13-14 "13 He who conceals his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them will find mercy. 14 Blessed is the man who is always reverent, but he who hardens his heart falls into trouble."
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