We are more likely to interpret events according to our own hopes and desires. This is why we need to be evaluating everything according to the facts rather than feelings.
Those who want to believe in conspiracy theories will search out websites and articles that say what they want to believe, enjoying the drama of those news articles.
If one person dislikes another person, the one who dislikes will take everything their target person does as a personal attack or action that is against them.
A jealous person will interpret the actions of their target as done deliberately to offend them. If a jealous person sees their friend buying a new car they will interpret the purchase of the new car as if the target did it on purpose to make them jealous. Or they will interpret the target as haughty because the jealous one would be haughty if they were getting a new car.
If someone is a person who lies to embellish their accomplishments they will interpret the statements of others as lying embellishments. Why? Because often people believe others do the same things they do.
A liar believes others lie to them. A thief believes others want to steal from them. A jealous person believes others are jealous of them. Gossips believe their target gossips about them. And on it goes about everything.
A self-absorbed individual cannot assess any matter according to the facts, but will almost always assess things according to their own feelings. This is why paying attention to feelings is ruinous to relationships.
The best relationships are those that evaluate the events according to the facts without regard to their feelings. Feelings lie to us all the time.
Someone might "feel" hurt because their friend had an opportunity to travel to a fun place when the friend does not invite them. Rather than engaging in love and enjoyment with the friend, they do something snarky to diminish the friend's experience.
When we have love we are able to ignore our feelings to do what is right. As we grow in holiness we no longer have those jealous feelings, they have been crucified with Christ and do not dominate our thinking.
What does love look like?
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
"4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
When we love someone we want the best for them, we engage with them in their tears, their hurts and their blessings and joys.
Romans 12:15-18
"15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.
16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.[a] Never be wise in your own sight.
17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.
18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all."
