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Love is the first fruit of the Spirit

Galatians 5:22-23

"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

When you encounter someone who does not have love, they also will not have any of the other fruit. They can pretend but it will be short-lived and phony.

In order to have the fruit of the Spirit we must have the Holy Spirit Who is the essence of this fruit.

No fruit, No Holy Spirit!!!!

John 16:13-14 "13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you.…"

Notice when someone has the Holy Spirit they will not glorify themselves, they will honor and glorify Christ Who lives in them.

Someone who fights to win for superiority over others is not being led by the Holy Spirit but by their own flesh. Those who live a continual lifestyle of this are not born-again. Those who are believers will be convicted when they act self-righteous and superior, desiring to confess it and be cleansed of it by Christ Who lives in them.

The fruit can be faked for a period of time but a life that is faking will not be able to sustain the appearance of the fruit. They will and often do take out their frustration on those they believe are beneath them or those they think others don't like. There is continual anger waiting to emerge in those who are pretenders. It doesn't take very much for them to find a small insignificant reason to rage at their target.

These fruitless people think that as long as others don't see what they do to those they persecute, they can continue to fool those for whom they love bomb. It is important for fruitless prideful people to have followers who have never seen the real them, and would not believe the targets who do know the real them and have been victims of their harsh, judgmental, and angry tactics.

When we encounter those who love to demean us we can allow it to bounce off of us to Christ, we can deflect the rudeness allowing Christ to deal with them. Remember those who are dedicated to being superior to others will want us to respond while they enjoy twisting everything we say and do to make us look like troublemakers.

Proverbs 26:4-5 – Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself. Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes. The self-confident fool thinks too highly of himself and his opinions, and he shares them freely."

If we must answer a fool, we must remain calm, give them no real information and exit the conversation. The more we say the more ammunition for their lies. Let God deal with them while you remain trusting in Him, calm and confident.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

"4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant. 5 It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered, 6 it does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 it keeps every confidence, it believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

That Famine is Now!!!!

Confession is Vital to Relationship Reconcilation

I am convinced the only way a relationship damaged by selfish mean people is if they confess how mean they were and feel sorry they treated someone in this way. Without confession of sin and a desire to be different there is no reconciling of the relationship.

God will not reconcile a person to Him unless they are first broken over their sin and desire to be cleansed by Him.

The offenders should say something like; "I was so rude and disrespectful to you, please forgive me."

After all, remember Christ said the following:

James 5:16 "16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man has great power to prevail."

Healing does not occur in a broken relationship unless there is a confession of the offense.

1 John 1:9

"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

Hurt feelings and destroyed relationships CANNOT heal unless there is a demonstration of sorrow over the offense. The one who offends and is not sorry cannot be trusted, they will do it again because they don't see it as something to be avoided, nor do they care about the one they harmed. Protecting oneself from feelings of embarrassment and preserving pride is all offenders who don't confess, care about.

Another aspect of healing relationships is dialogue. We must discuss what happened, everyone listening to each other with an attitude of "how could I have done better." Or, "that is something I don't ever want to do again, I do not want to ever offend you this way again."

Relationships are not superficial. If the life experience with someone is superficial it is not a "relationship." There are many people we interact with every day that are not relationships to us. They are acquaintances, a relationship is deeper.

John 13:34-35 "…34 A new commandment I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you also must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are My disciples if you love one another.”

When we love others we will not be attempting to trap them or manipulate them or demean or dismiss them.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth."

If we want to be "Christ-like" we must make the Word of God our standard for everything all the time. The world will pull on us to become like them through poking and mocking, the devil knows how to push the fleshly buttons of a Christian. We must ask the Holy Spirit to keep us from responding to the pokes in the flesh. And, we are commanded to remove ourselves, sometimes permanently from those who have contempt for the way we want to follow Christ.

Proverbs 3:5-6

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths."

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Do Not Fear the World

Ephesians 6:11
"Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil."

Ephesians 4:27
"And give no opportunity to the devil."

1 John 4:1
"Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world."

Proverbs 18:10
"The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous man runs into it and is safe."

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