We had some children who did not recognize love when they encountered it. They refused to cry when spanked because they knew we wanted them to be repentant and submit to our authority. When we spoke to them they refused to listen.
2 Timothy 3 is a description of these defiant types. They are evidence when seen on mass of the end times mentality of most people.
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
We adopted four older children who were so defiant that everything we tried to teach them was resisted. They would do exactly opposite of what they knew we wanted, even if what we wanted would give them a better more productive happy life.
Sadly, I don't think these children ever figured out how much we loved them. They did not see instruction, discipline and hugs as love. Since they were deeply manipulative they saw any attempts at helping them to be a better person as manipulation. They evaluated everything we did in negative terms because they were raised in foster homes where the parents there were the enemy, complicit in removing them from their natural parent. Of course the new parents didn't remove them, they only provided a place when the state removed them. To these children the state and the new parents were one and the same.
Some of those foster homes were the enemy to these children because they were abused in them.
The incredible thing about those with stubborn hearts is that they will be resistant to any help to their own destruction. They see "help" as being an allowance to do and be anything they wish without any instruction or guidance. When rules or standards come into play they see it as a threat to be resisted.
When I asked one of our adopted children after he was grown, how it felt when he came to our home he replied honestly; "I thought of it as just another foster home." I asked him if it made a difference that we were intending to adopt him and after one year as the rule was for the state we finally gave him our name so that he was considered one of our family by the state. His reply was the same, it made no difference at all that we wanted him enough to adopt him.
This is an example of how early children are deeply influenced by their formative years. I believe those early years, even as early as a year old, there is an anger and emptiness inside that could only be resolved by interaction with the natural parent. Even though the natural parent was bad for them, even abusive, they wanted what belonged to them, that DNA, that voice of the familiar parent.
It is interesting that all children love their parents no matter how bad the parents are or how neglectful. I explain it this way, there is an invisible umbilical cord that stretches from a child to his parent that can never be severed. The connection to natural parents is so strong that even with new parents who love them and would do better for them, they can never fill that emptiness that is inside from the missing natural parent. Also we see a fantasy in the young child about their natural parent that is not commensurate with reality while with those parents.
It is only Christ Who can break that bond between wicked natural parents and a natural child. This is true too even in family structures in which the abused child remains with their parents. As long as the parent is alive the children must see their loving adoptive parents as the bad guys while their real parents are the ones who loved them. It is inaccurate in most cases but this is the way the adopted children view their new families.
Many adoptive children seek out their natural parent no matter how wonderful their adoptive parents were to them. We hear these stories all the time, the heartbreak of the adoptive parents who gave their all for these children only to be rebuffed and rejected. The adoptive parents are often broken-hearted even though they still have a hope that one day the adoptive child will find Christ and come back to love them.
The adoptive parents have no desire to create animosity in their adoptive children toward their bio parents, but as all narcissists do they assign all the bad of the bio parent to the adoptive parents to justify their sense of anger and loss.
In the cases where there was no animosity toward the adoptive parents were those situations in which the natural parents were killed and the home was a loving place. The children were well adjusted from the example of the natural parent so the adoptive children were grateful for their new home and recognized love in it because they had seen the face of love in their bio parents.
In the cases where the children were removed for abuse or neglect the children learned the anger and hate from their bio parents. As early as one year old a child's perspective about love and live are shaped by their bio parents.
When the anger of a bio parent is inculcated into the soul of their toddler, there is no removing it until that child becomes born again. The angry habit of attitude is formed as a permanent fixture in the child. Yes, lots of love and attention can cause behavior modification in the early years but if Christ does not dwell in the heart of that child the teen years are when we see what has been hiding inside all along.
This is also why the school system has been working to get control over our children at younger and younger ages, they want the children to bond to the teachers and the school system in place of their own bio parents.
When a child spends more time with the teachers at school and then the coaches in sports on the weekend, they will bond more readily to those influences than they do to their own parents.
Have you wondered why the society as a whole has become resistant to God's Word, instruction and correction? The reason is simple, the teachers, the churches, the coaches and everyone else the children interacts with all week long are steeped in humanism and permissiveness. These entities are training our children to look to them for their guidance while teaching them the wicked ways of devils. They inadvertently and by example turn the children against their parents.
We have more rebellion against parents now than we have ever seen in our culture in past years. The 2 Timothy 3 scenario is playing out before our eyes and we can expect it to become worse.
Why are the children accepting the authority of the humanists in other places than home. Simple, we are handing them over to these authorities, in the minds of the children we have given them away to others to raise. With the endorsement of the parents they live with, they are handed over.
Deuteronomy 6:6-8 "…6 These words I am commanding you today are to be upon your hearts. 7 And you shall teach them diligently to your children and speak of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as reminders on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.…"
I see nothing in any verse of the Bible instructing us to hand our children over to others outside the family to teach and train them.
This is not a warning not to adopt children, it is a warning to know what you are getting into and to be sure God is telling you to do it. There are many lessons to be learned about human nature and love from stretching ourselves in adopting children, missionaries do this all the time.
AND, this is a big "and", our adopted children are all still alive, as long as they remain alive there is a chance they might remember what they heard and and saw in our home and become born again because of those memories.
We are not in control of anyone, we are merely the messengers, God is the One Who must work in the hearts of everyone.
1 Corinthians 3:6-8
"6 I planted, Apollos watered, but God was causing the growth. 7 So then neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but God who causes the growth. 8 Now he who plants and he who waters are one; but each will receive his own reward according to his own labor."
Bottom line: Never place your trust in what you perceive as "results", these can be deceiving. Place your trust in Christ alone, then we will never be worried or disappointed. Our job is to obey, that's all!!!!
Thursday, October 31, 2019
Wednesday, October 30, 2019
There if Forgiveness for the Repentant
Ezekiel 33:8-9 "… 8 If I say to the wicked, ‘O wicked man, you will surely die,’ but you do not speak out to dissuade him from his way, then that wicked man will die in his iniquity, yet I will hold you accountable for his blood. 9 But if you warn the wicked man to turn from his way, and he does not turn from it, he will die in his iniquity, but you will have saved your life."
The transgender surgeries are so intense that they can never be reversed if someone changes their mind. They are the most invasive and traumatic surgeries that leaves emotional and spiritual scars forever.
There is a rise in suicide among transgender people since these transitions have became more frequent.
The attempts at suicide are not because of bullying but because those who choose this route are going against everything in their DNA to become something completely unnatural to them.
The parents or teachers are talking young children to want to change their gender at an age when their hormones have not yet developed. When those hormones kick in these children become depressed and suicidal at the prospect of never fulfilling their natural desire for the opposite gender.
No young child comes up with this foolishness of transgender all by themselves. Those who speak about it and encourage it are child abusers. It is the devil using the minds of evil adults to encourage mutilation of the bodies of children too young to resist.
It is demonically inspired in the mind! When the demon places irrational thoughts in the mind making the people believe they want this operation, then removes the thoughts for the transgender to return to normal thinking they are left with what they have done and a deep regret knowing they can never go back to their natural self.
Its bad enough when a full grown adult chooses this for themselves, but absolutely monstrous when adults are influencing children to do this mutilation, knowing it can never be reversed.
It is not natural to want to be the gender we were not born to when all that we are, our whole being is tied to that which God made us.
Devils are busy twisting the minds of foolish adults and those foolish adults are preying on vulnerable children and young people until they are able to get them to do what the devil knows will destroy them.
God says in His word that men and woman are not to pretend to be each other through using one another's clothing, how much worse and devastating is the mutilation of the body.
We are living in monstrous times in which warnings must be issued continually but few will listen to the warnings.
Those few who control the rest of the population are leading us down the most wicked and morale debasing road possible. Sadly though, most of the culture doesn't really care as long as they get to do anything they wish to do. Those who care only about doing what they want will eventually endorse it in others even if they would not do it themselves.
There are few left to give good counsel to confused people. Nearly all counsel that is given will have only one things to say; "do what ever you want", without any thought to the future consequences.
Those who accept any and all actions never think about consequences or the dynamics of things, they simply walk around saying' "duh whatever", while those they support ruin their lives even kill themselves. There is no love in the hearts of those who do not warn about possible pitfalls. Nor are these people around to help pick up the pieces when someone has lost all hope.
Shame, shame on this wicked and perverse generation who does not want to be bothered doing the hard work of warning.
Ezekiel 33:8-9 "… 8 If I say to the wicked, ‘O wicked man, you will surely die,’ but you do not speak out to dissuade him from his way, then that wicked man will die in his iniquity, yet I will hold you accountable for his blood. 9 But if you warn the wicked man to turn from his way, and he does not turn from it, he will die in his iniquity, but you will have saved your life."
If you have became a transgender and regret it, there is forgiveness in Christ. You will not be able to return to what you were before but God will save your soul and you will see the blessing in heaven when you will be made whole again with a new body. God cleanses us from all sin when we believe in Him.
The transgender surgeries are so intense that they can never be reversed if someone changes their mind. They are the most invasive and traumatic surgeries that leaves emotional and spiritual scars forever.
There is a rise in suicide among transgender people since these transitions have became more frequent.
The attempts at suicide are not because of bullying but because those who choose this route are going against everything in their DNA to become something completely unnatural to them.
The parents or teachers are talking young children to want to change their gender at an age when their hormones have not yet developed. When those hormones kick in these children become depressed and suicidal at the prospect of never fulfilling their natural desire for the opposite gender.
No young child comes up with this foolishness of transgender all by themselves. Those who speak about it and encourage it are child abusers. It is the devil using the minds of evil adults to encourage mutilation of the bodies of children too young to resist.
It is demonically inspired in the mind! When the demon places irrational thoughts in the mind making the people believe they want this operation, then removes the thoughts for the transgender to return to normal thinking they are left with what they have done and a deep regret knowing they can never go back to their natural self.
Its bad enough when a full grown adult chooses this for themselves, but absolutely monstrous when adults are influencing children to do this mutilation, knowing it can never be reversed.
It is not natural to want to be the gender we were not born to when all that we are, our whole being is tied to that which God made us.
Devils are busy twisting the minds of foolish adults and those foolish adults are preying on vulnerable children and young people until they are able to get them to do what the devil knows will destroy them.
God says in His word that men and woman are not to pretend to be each other through using one another's clothing, how much worse and devastating is the mutilation of the body.
We are living in monstrous times in which warnings must be issued continually but few will listen to the warnings.
Those few who control the rest of the population are leading us down the most wicked and morale debasing road possible. Sadly though, most of the culture doesn't really care as long as they get to do anything they wish to do. Those who care only about doing what they want will eventually endorse it in others even if they would not do it themselves.
There are few left to give good counsel to confused people. Nearly all counsel that is given will have only one things to say; "do what ever you want", without any thought to the future consequences.
Those who accept any and all actions never think about consequences or the dynamics of things, they simply walk around saying' "duh whatever", while those they support ruin their lives even kill themselves. There is no love in the hearts of those who do not warn about possible pitfalls. Nor are these people around to help pick up the pieces when someone has lost all hope.
Shame, shame on this wicked and perverse generation who does not want to be bothered doing the hard work of warning.
Ezekiel 33:8-9 "… 8 If I say to the wicked, ‘O wicked man, you will surely die,’ but you do not speak out to dissuade him from his way, then that wicked man will die in his iniquity, yet I will hold you accountable for his blood. 9 But if you warn the wicked man to turn from his way, and he does not turn from it, he will die in his iniquity, but you will have saved your life."
If you have became a transgender and regret it, there is forgiveness in Christ. You will not be able to return to what you were before but God will save your soul and you will see the blessing in heaven when you will be made whole again with a new body. God cleanses us from all sin when we believe in Him.
The Life of the Blind
Walk Away and Give Them to God
One Must Confess to be Cleansed
Each act of confession to God of a sin no matter how small is another step toward holiness and less sin in our lives.
We are not sinless when we become born again but we do sin less.
As we grow older having confessed to be cleansed every time we fail, we become wiser and more intolerant of sin in ourselves.
Those who do not confess sin in themselves remain spiritual babies, perhaps even never having been born again.
1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
We are not sinless when we become born again but we do sin less.
As we grow older having confessed to be cleansed every time we fail, we become wiser and more intolerant of sin in ourselves.
Those who do not confess sin in themselves remain spiritual babies, perhaps even never having been born again.
1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
Varnish or Solid Wood?
We can change our tactics but if our character is not changed then the evil will merely morph into something slightly different but the intent is the same.
Ezekiel 11:19
"And I will give them one heart, and a new spirit I will put within them. I will remove the heart of stone from their flesh and give them a heart of flesh,"
If Christ is not changing the heart through our faith in Him, then the heart remains as it is, fallen, secretive and dirty.
2 Corinthians 5:17
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come."
When Christ changes our heart into a new one, we no longer operate the way we used to, we don't think the same way anymore.
The pretender remains dirty on the inside while acting on the outside.
The born again believer is cleaned up, they are on the outside what they are on the inside. If they fall out of weakness they are deeply sorrowful, confess it to be cleansed and carry on a little better than before.
The changing never stops with the born again believer, every new step is a permanent heart change.
1 John 1:9
Ezekiel 11:19
"And I will give them one heart, and a new spirit I will put within them. I will remove the heart of stone from their flesh and give them a heart of flesh,"
If Christ is not changing the heart through our faith in Him, then the heart remains as it is, fallen, secretive and dirty.
2 Corinthians 5:17
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come."
When Christ changes our heart into a new one, we no longer operate the way we used to, we don't think the same way anymore.
The pretender remains dirty on the inside while acting on the outside.
The born again believer is cleaned up, they are on the outside what they are on the inside. If they fall out of weakness they are deeply sorrowful, confess it to be cleansed and carry on a little better than before.
The changing never stops with the born again believer, every new step is a permanent heart change.
1 John 1:9
No Pain No Growth
I have heard it said today that "we must hurt in order to heal", this is exactly right. In the life of a believer we cannot expect to gain wisdom through all happy fun times. In fact very little is learned during these pleasurable times.
Most important lessons are learned through very difficult times that require a stretching of our emotions and spirit. We cannot learn to ignore feelings to do what is right if we never have those feelings.
Those who seek a life of pleasure cannot grow into mature human beings.
Facing life's challenges is the "no pain no gain" that strengthens us.
James 1:2-4
Testing of Your Faith
"2 Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, 3 for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. 4 And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
A narcissist does not wish to become mature or grow internally, they only desire to be "seen" as though they have done this.
The mindset behind the behaviors of the narcissist is so ingrained and dominant that they cannot allow themselves to think any differently from self promotion and self protection.
Often the narcissist will change up the way they operate to hide their real selves, they do this by changing one manipulative behavior for another. There is no change in their heart at all, it only appears that way because the manipulation is new.
The narcissist will hear what you say in your encounters with your friends and immediately go and tell those you spoke about. Only the information from the narcissist is nothing like what was really said. These selfish and problematic narcissists love to stir up trouble between people when there was nothing offensive occurring.
Since the narcissist is hypersensitive to criticism they will take the smallest comment and turn it into evil by changing up a few words, making it appear something that it was not at all.
One lady once mentioned to a friend while in conversation about her job, that she loved an organized home as well as an organized office.
The conversation was nothing about the hearers home or anything to do with anything the hearer was doing, but because her home was not organized she took offense. Then later the organized lady heard back from others that the hearer had claimed she had been rude in mentioning her disorganized home.
The truth was that the conversation was not anything about the home of the hearer, it was a casual benign comment about her own preferences in managing a home and office.
Sometimes when conviction hits someone they will be offended by those who are doing what is right even if those doing right say nothing or do nothing to the one who is convicted.
This is the reason I am convinced that unsaved people are convicted by the presence of born again believers even if the believers say and do nothing at all except live their life the way they believe they should.
Sometimes too, those who are unsaved will be offended that we do not go the places they go or do the things they do. Just the mere living of our lives the way we believe is enough to anger those who want us to be like them. I call it the "pack mentality" in which the entire family, school or office system requires everyone to say and do all the same things in order to be treated decently by the others.
Saying "no" to a narcissist is like dangling meat in front of a hungry lion, they will go after you as though you must be stopped from living your own life differently from them. We are seeing this in politics right now in the vitriol coming from the left who are not content to do as they please they must stop everyone else who thinks differently from even expressing themselves.
This devilish control over others exists everywhere now, in families, in churches, in schools, in government and every where else. The mentality of control over others while disallowing anyone to think for themselves under the threat of punishment and banishment is common and even dominant in our culture.
Count yourself greatly blessed if you have the leading of the Holy Spirit so intensely that no one can intimidate you to act and think the way they do.
We listen to the opinions of others, express ours and go off to think about everything and in prayer to determine truth. No one controls us, this is what makes the devil and those controlled by him so angry.
1 Peter 5:7-9 "…7 Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"
Most important lessons are learned through very difficult times that require a stretching of our emotions and spirit. We cannot learn to ignore feelings to do what is right if we never have those feelings.
Those who seek a life of pleasure cannot grow into mature human beings.
Facing life's challenges is the "no pain no gain" that strengthens us.
James 1:2-4
Testing of Your Faith
"2 Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, 3 for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. 4 And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
A narcissist does not wish to become mature or grow internally, they only desire to be "seen" as though they have done this.
The mindset behind the behaviors of the narcissist is so ingrained and dominant that they cannot allow themselves to think any differently from self promotion and self protection.
Often the narcissist will change up the way they operate to hide their real selves, they do this by changing one manipulative behavior for another. There is no change in their heart at all, it only appears that way because the manipulation is new.
The narcissist will hear what you say in your encounters with your friends and immediately go and tell those you spoke about. Only the information from the narcissist is nothing like what was really said. These selfish and problematic narcissists love to stir up trouble between people when there was nothing offensive occurring.
Since the narcissist is hypersensitive to criticism they will take the smallest comment and turn it into evil by changing up a few words, making it appear something that it was not at all.
One lady once mentioned to a friend while in conversation about her job, that she loved an organized home as well as an organized office.
The conversation was nothing about the hearers home or anything to do with anything the hearer was doing, but because her home was not organized she took offense. Then later the organized lady heard back from others that the hearer had claimed she had been rude in mentioning her disorganized home.
The truth was that the conversation was not anything about the home of the hearer, it was a casual benign comment about her own preferences in managing a home and office.
Sometimes when conviction hits someone they will be offended by those who are doing what is right even if those doing right say nothing or do nothing to the one who is convicted.
This is the reason I am convinced that unsaved people are convicted by the presence of born again believers even if the believers say and do nothing at all except live their life the way they believe they should.
Sometimes too, those who are unsaved will be offended that we do not go the places they go or do the things they do. Just the mere living of our lives the way we believe is enough to anger those who want us to be like them. I call it the "pack mentality" in which the entire family, school or office system requires everyone to say and do all the same things in order to be treated decently by the others.
Saying "no" to a narcissist is like dangling meat in front of a hungry lion, they will go after you as though you must be stopped from living your own life differently from them. We are seeing this in politics right now in the vitriol coming from the left who are not content to do as they please they must stop everyone else who thinks differently from even expressing themselves.
This devilish control over others exists everywhere now, in families, in churches, in schools, in government and every where else. The mentality of control over others while disallowing anyone to think for themselves under the threat of punishment and banishment is common and even dominant in our culture.
Count yourself greatly blessed if you have the leading of the Holy Spirit so intensely that no one can intimidate you to act and think the way they do.
We listen to the opinions of others, express ours and go off to think about everything and in prayer to determine truth. No one controls us, this is what makes the devil and those controlled by him so angry.
1 Peter 5:7-9 "…7 Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"
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