Marriage is not a Contract it is a Covenant

Marriage is not a contract with the government, it's a covenant between a spouse and God. This applies not only to Christians but also to unbelievers. It began in the garden of Eden when God made Adam and Eve.

When two people make a promise to one another it is also in front of God who then makes them into one.

Matthew 19:5-6 "…5 says;, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

When God makes two people one it is not merely words but a spiritual bond that cannot be severed until death. And, no human government can sever it.

A certificate given by the state of a country does not make two people one nor does another paper dissolve the union. Divorce and remarriage is clearly not an option with God when two people have promised and been made into one by Him.

Divorcing by the laws of the land does not dissolve the marriage, it does nothing except in legal humanistic terms protect the money and property, the spiritual union remains.

Remarrying after divorce is the same as having serial relationships outside of marriage. God never endorses or blesses a second relationship while the first spouse still lives.

All remarriage after divorce are shacking-up. Obtaining pieces of paper by the law of the land does not dissolve a marriage and does not make a new marriage. We know this because of what Christ said.

Luke 16:18

“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery."

There are many Christians looking for loopholes to be able to disobey God.

They use the excuse that someone committed adultery on them, as though that severs the spiritual bond, but it does not. They use the passage in Matthew that speaks of the engagement period in which the Jewish custom was to allow divorce for unfaithfulness during the engagement period they called "betrothal."

This never applied to marriage.

We see that Christ never gave this provision for divorce because Matthew was written to the Jews who had this custom of divorcing for fornication, (meaning before marriage) but the Gentiles He spoke to in Luke did not have such a custom of divorcing from an engagement, the reason there was no mention of the exception clause so many people wish to defend.

Many years ago every believer discouraged divorce and sought to find ways to reconcile a troubled marriage. They knew God's principles of marriage as permanent in life until death.

Let me be clear, one husband at a time does not make marriages. Serial marriages while the first spouse is still alive remains adultery.

One husband for life makes a marriage.

Breaking a promise to remain faithful to the first spouse and marrying another does not validate the second promise which has no meaning because promises broken to move into the next relationship makes the next promise a sham. One cannot promise to the second man after breaking a promise to the first one. The promise becomes a lie.

Don't become angry with me I am only telling you what God said. If you are angry at what God said, that is dangerous for you.

What is the instruction from God on this matter of divorce?

Here it is: 1 Corinthians 7:10-11

"10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife is not to leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband is not to divorce his wife."

This could not be more clear!!! If someone is divorced by the law of the land then they should remain alone as they seek to pray for reconciliation. If the spouse refuses then the one who wishes reconciliation will be protected by God as they obey Him.

Living in remarriage after divorce is the same as having two spouses in the house, the second spouse is adultery on the first.

God commanded one spouse for life until death! All the excuses people have given are not Biblical and have ruined the church and the culture as a whole.

Since lack of faith and willfulness dominates our culture we have more people angry at those who wish to promote God's principles than they are concerned about the well-being of those who divorce and remarry. God's will and purpose in marriage is of no concern at all to those who love their pleasure.

Just because a second marriage appears to be working for those who disobey God, does not mean the marriage is blessed by God. Many people have a lot of fun and enjoyment of life in their rebellion but they do not have the blessing of God on their hearts. Those who disobey God regress in their walk and perhaps their rebellion is an indication that they were never born again and face hell at the end of their life.

And, worst of all is the example for the next generation which is one of willful rebellion against the standards of God leaving a wake of broken and angry people who do not trust God or love the permanence of marriage. These people do not love period, they only love their own fleshly desires and are angry at God and anyone else who speaks of His principles.

May the authentically born-again believer become stronger as they are pummelled daily by those who refuse to hear God's Word. The reward is great for those who defend God.

Matthew 10:22-30 "22 and you will be hated by all for my name's sake. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.

23 When they persecute you in one town, flee to the next, for truly, I say to you, you will not have gone through all the towns of Israel before the Son of Man comes.

24 “A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master.

25 It is enough for the disciple to be like his teacher, and the servant like his master. If they have called the master of the house Beelzebul, how much more will they malign those of his household.

Have No Fear

26 “So have no fear of them, for nothing is covered that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known.

27 What I tell you in the dark, say in the light, and what you hear whispered, proclaim on the housetops.

28 And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.

29 Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. 30 But even the hairs of your head are all numbered."

Speak the truth and never engage with those who have already decided and have refused the truth.

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Listening to understand is far different from listening to gather information to make judgments.

Sometimes God removes people from our lives and other times He tells us to remove them, still His decision.

Narcissists refuse to discuss anything because in their mind its either their way or not at all.

Narcissists make plans for us without telling us and then become angry when we do not comply with their plans.

What an amazing relationship we can have with Christ and all those who love Him.

When we walk with Christ we know He has only the best in mind for us, Hallelujah

Authentic or Pretentious?

People who are non-pretentious people will admit their own flaws and mistakes, even confess their sins. They apologize when they have failed at keeping a promise and seek to make it right.

Matthew 5:23-24

"So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift."

A pretentious person who is deeply invested in outer appearances more than the truth will never admit to anything while they boast of things about themselves that are not true, usually through half-truths slathered in self-compliments.

These types of people make exaggerated promises knowing that you look foolish if you hold them to what they said often denying that they ever said it.

Narcissists are hyper-sensitive to correction or exposure of something they said or did but have no problem pointing out someone else's flaw. Often the narcissist will be petty, pointing out flaws that are not flaws hoping that the one they assault will feel shame over something that does not warrant shame.

The devil is busy every day attacking believers through the antics and influence of narcissists. The narcissists influence others to dislike the believer as they also work on the believer to feel unwarranted shame.

A young man many years ago accused me of having influence over my own daughter who was living in my home, as though I should not be influencing my daughter. My response was to laugh at such a silly statement. My reply was simply: "I am supposed to influence my daughter that's why they call me a mother."

In fact, I made it clear that a mother is called by God to teach her children. If the children resist until adulthood that is on the child not the mother. 2 Timothy 3 is clearly in play now as we watch the entire culture angry at mothers who attempt to teach their children from the Bible. Psychology has infiltrated the church and has ruined mothers to believe they are being too harsh when they follow the scriptures in their training of the children.

Since the man involved in this foolish encounter was trained by a world that did not believe God and His Word.,Hh spouted from his mouth the things that the devil told him to say thinking it was his own idea.

It is not possible to have a reasonable rational discussion with someone who claims to be a Christian but denies Christ in their actions while lacking the Holy Spirit as well as the desire to know the truth from God.

1 John 2:3-5 "And by this we know that we have come to know him, if we keep his commandments. Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him, but whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected. By this we may know that we are in him:"

Matthew 7:21-23

"“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

Mark 7:9

"And he said to them, “You have a fine way of rejecting the commandment of God in order to establish your tradition!"

We live in a post-Christian world now in which the tenets of Christianity and the principles of Christ are treated with contempt even by those who say they are Christians.

Few are left who believe God! We know they believe God because they love to obey His Word. And, they love to speak of Him and His principles.

Only those who have contempt for God's Word would rage at a believer for speaking the truth to point them to Christ.

Galatians 1:6-9

"I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting him who called you in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel— not that there is another one, but there are some who trouble you and want to distort the gospel of Christ. But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach to you a gospel contrary to the one we preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again: If anyone is preaching to you a gospel contrary to the one you received, let him be accursed."

The gospel of Christ is not just the salvation message of Jesus Christ, it is the very essence of Who He is contained in all His commandments. Not one commandment will be eliminated to fit into a culture.

Those who pick and choose what they like and throw away what they don't like in the form of attempting to explain it away with psychological teachings are in deep trouble for their rebellion.

Deuteronomy 4:2

"You shall not add to the word which I am commanding you, nor take away from it, that you may keep the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you."

Proverbs 30:6

"Do not add to His words

Or He will reprove you, and you will be proved a liar."

Proverbs 30:5-6

"Every word of God is tested;

He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him.

Do not add to His words

Or He will reprove you, and you will be proved a liar."

Whoever ignores God's word to live as they please is in danger of hell fire. Everyone who adds extra ideas that God never said are also in danger of hell fire.

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