No One is Better Than Another

I believe that our inner heart is deeply connected to our physical body. 

This is the reason that "actions speak louder than words."

Words are easy, they are deceptive and misleading, but our body language does not lie, it is instinctual and nearly automatic.

We cannot hide the real us, it comes out in our bodies somehow.

It might be good to do a study on "lie spotting", there are micro-expressions in the face, head movements, body language that give away the attitude of the narcissist that is hidden inside.

Sometimes we can see them claiming something, while their head is moving side to side as if to say "no." Often this is one clue that they are lying. This is a fascinating study, giving us more insight into the heart of a narcissist.

I am convinced that our spirit, mind and soul are so connected to our bodies that our body reveals the truth about us when our words are telling lies.

God focuses more on our heart, because it is what comes out of the heart that brings the actions. Watch the actions, that will tell us what's in a person's heart.

A person cannot murder someone unless there is murder already in the heart. If we hate our brother, God says it's the same as if we have murdered him, because it is the outflow of our heart that causes the actions and reactions.

There is a family member who cannot hug me when we meet. He turns sideways and pats me on the back as if to show disapproval. This family member has always taken the opportunity to devalue and demean me whenever he approaches me. He cannot be in the same room with me without delivering an insult, then laughing to claim it was only a joke.

Proverbs 26:18-20 "…18 Like a madman who throws Firebrands, arrows and death, 19 So is the man who deceives his neighbor, And says, "Was I not joking?" 20 For lack of wood the fire goes out, And where there is no whisperer, contention quiets down.…"

Cleverly this male member of extended family only does his dastardly mocking when there is no one else to see it. I have often heard him say, "she just can't take a joke", when I would call him on his rude behavior. This is a classic response of a narcissist. Another comment commonly expressed by narcissists is "you are too sensitive."

Notice something interesting, when confronted with a mean comment the narc flips the script to make the victim look as though they are insane for being offended.

A godly and loving person who was told something they said was mean would admit it and show sorrow that they had hurt someone. In fact they probably would not have said that mean thing to begin with, but if they were really joking they would feel bad that they may have made someone feel badly and be sorry they said it.

The responses of the narcissist are clues as to their intent. Someone who does not intend to hurt someone will automatically comfort and apologize, but the narcissist uses the opportunity to further offend the one who expressed their dismay. Dismay is food for the narcissist, the more they can get their target to respond the more they like it.

Proverbs 6:12-16
"A worthless person, a wicked man, goes about with crooked speech, winks with his eyes, signals with his feet, points with his finger, with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing. There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him:"

Micah 2:1
"Woe to those who devise wickedness and work evil on their beds! When the morning dawns, they perform it, because it is in the power of their hand."

Sadly many of these narcissists are in the organized churches today. I have met a few, they are bent on being superior to others, they love the praise of others and are deeply incensed when anyone calls them out about wrong doctrine. These people have little tolerance for the working of the Holy Spirit, it's all about education in institutions that gain them their prestige.

John 12:43
"43 For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God."

The church narcissist must demean, mock and devalue anyone who dares to resist placing them on a pedestal. Many men and some women are in the pulpits because they love the praise of men, the money and the elevated accolades of those they perceive to be under them.

No man or woman is above any other man or woman. We are all equal with differing tasks. Anyone who looks down on another person because they think they are above others, should never be in a position of leadership, they are far too immature to be leading anyone.

Philippians 2:3
"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;"

Luke 6:31
"Treat others the same way you want them to treat you."

Matthew 20:26
"It is not this way among you, but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant,"

John 3:30
"He must increase, but I must decrease."

Proverbs 29:2
"When the righteous increase, the people rejoice, But when a wicked man rules, people groan."

1 Corinthians 12:12-31
"For even as the body is one and yet has many members, and all the members of the body, though they are many, are one body, so also is Christ.

For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body, whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free, and we were all made to drink of one Spirit. For the body is not one member, but many.

If the foot says, "Because I am not a hand, I am not a part of the body," it is not for this reason any the less a part of the body.

And if the ear says, "Because I am not an eye, I am not a part of the body," it is not for this reason any the less a part of the body.

If the whole body were an eye, where would the hearing be? If the whole were hearing, where would the sense of smell be?

But now God has placed the members, each one of them, in the body, just as He desired. If they were all one member, where would the body be?

But now there are many members, but one body. And the eye cannot say to the hand, "I have no need of you"; or again the head to the feet, "I have no need of you."

On the contrary, it is much truer that the members of the body which seem to be weaker are necessary; and those members of the body which we deem less honorable, on these we bestow more abundant honor, and our less presentable members become much more presentable, whereas our more presentable members have no need of it.

But God has so composed the body, giving more abundant honor to that member which lacked, so that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another.

And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it. Now you are Christ's body, and individually members of it.

And God has appointed in the church, first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, administrations, various kinds of tongues. All are not apostles, are they? All are not prophets, are they? All are not teachers, are they? All are not workers of miracles, are they? All do not have gifts of healings, do they? All do not speak with tongues, do they? All do not interpret, do they? But earnestly desire the greater gifts. And I show you a still more excellent way."

Everyone needs everyone else, no one is above with more wisdom or greater service than another. We all have the same Holy Spirit and are capable and able to rebuke, correct and instruct in righteousness.

Anyone who places someone higher than anyone else has an idol in their heart. We love people, we care for people, but we do not elevate them as if they have no flaws, this is worship of a false god. Everyone has flaws, everyone needs correction and everyone can discern right from wrong because of the Holy Spirit that lives in each of us.

Each of us has special gifts we have been given, but all can express the other gifts from time to time as needed.