There is no validity to the assertion that we become bitter just because someone will not be sorry. I have learned that remaining in the lives of those who are not sorry will not change them or us.
There will be times when problems cannot be resolved with those who are stubborn. How can we resolve something when the other person will not listen, perhaps rages in anger and will not consider what we are saying. So often these people are jealous and superior, they will not rationally discuss or attempt to understand, they merely want to win. It is an exercise in futility to try to work anything out with them.
The problem is that there is no love in stubborn people, only the desire to win over others!
I confess I have little patience with those who will not discuss a matter with the desire to learn about their offensiveness. Humble people want to know to correct themselves, but the narcissists gains narcissistic supply by keeping us upset. The key is do not be upset, but draw a clear boundary, a line in the sand that will not be crossed. If it is crossed then that person cannot be in our lives, they do not respect our boundaries because they do not respect us.
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