We cannot be helpful to those who don't want our help. When we offer an opinion in a discussion and the hearer sends the strong message through rage that they refuse to hear it, then is when we politely excuse ourselves and leave the conversation.
The narcissist will not stop until they have made you angry. If you do not remove yourself they will verbally batter you until you become worn down and end up being angry just like them.
This is a favored tactic of the narcissist. The best way to handle them is Biblically, here are some scripture to help.
1 Corinthians 15:33-34 " 33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 34 Sober up as you ought, and stop sinning; for some of you are ignorant of God. I say this to your shame.…"
Proverbs 23:9 "9 Do not speak to a fool, for he will despise the wisdom of your words."
Proverbs 22:10 "10 Drive out the mocker, and conflict will depart; even quarreling and insults will cease. "
Not only is it unpleasant to be in the presence of a fool it is impossible to have a civil and friendly conversation with them. They never listen to discern truth, but they fight bitterly to gain power over those in any discussion. They hate to admit someone else has a good point, in their mind it means they are "less than."
A wise and loving person does not have to win, however they will seek after truth. When a self righteous fool wants to argue to win then the wise man shows great power and control through leaving the presence of one who brings no good to the relationship.
Proverbs 14:6-8 "…6 A mocker seeks wisdom and finds none, but knowledge comes easily to the discerning. 7 Stay away from a foolish man; you will gain no knowledge from his speech. 8 The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools deceives them."
If we are smart and wise we will seek God's word for our answers. Never allow a person to convince you to remain with a fool just to be friendly or because they are family, this is also foolish.
Proverbs 13:20
"Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm."
Romans 12:2
"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect."
The scoffer, the argumentative person is not searching for truth with us, they are working to undermine truth so they can feel good about their foolishness. Superiority is the only goal of the foolish man who loves to appear wise without actually being wise.
Proverbs 22:24-25
"Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare."
For years I was entrenched in extended family in which everyone was "one upping" everyone else to see who could act more superior. This is ungodly and worthless wrangling. When there is a room full of Christians who act like this there is the question that arises, "did these people ever become broken over their sin, or did they join the ranks of the church to feel superior about themselves. Just asking!!!!!
When we have encountered a gaggle of narcissists it is unlikely that we will ever fit in, since the quest for wisdom is rarely present. They love to gain knowledge to feign superiority but that knowledge is for information only, wisdom is not very important to them.
1 Corinthians 8:1-2 "1 Now about food sacrificed to idols: We know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. 2 The one who thinks he knows something does not yet know as he ought to know.…"
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
We don't want to be a fool merely looking for accolades, as born again believers we ought to be seeking God for truth all the time in everything.
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