Leave the Narcissist to God

What does God say about dealing with wicked people who are our enemies.

They are not forgiven if they are not repentant. However this is not permission to treat them badly.

We can ignore their insults, avoid them often but treat them with the respect they didn't show us when we have to be around them.


God said bless your enemies when in their presence but He also said we can avoid them if they continue their bad behavior.

In the case of marriage one must learn to deal with a mean spouse, if physically abusive get a separation but not divorce. That's an entirely different dynamic.

We cannot bail out of every difficulty, God may have placed us in that problem to teach us things. We can learn godly ways of interacting with mean people so that we remain innocent.

We cannot change the narcissist, but we can act Christlike no matter what they are doing. When we learn to ignore our feelings of hurt and resolve to obey God, we may still be emotionally abused but hold up under it because of the Holy Spirit.

Christ had to be abused "without saying a word." He never ran after or remained with those who rejected Him. He removed Himself and went on to others.

Christ is our example to follow. If we follow modern psychological church teaching we will stay stuck in ugly relationships that pressure us to disobey God.

1 Corinthians 15:33 "33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” "

Proverbs 9:7-9 "…7 He who corrects a mocker brings shame on himself; he who rebukes a wicked man taints himself. 8 Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. 9 Instruct a wise man, and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man, and he will increase his learning."

Matthew 5:44 "44But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,"

The narcissist wants nothing better to goad you into bad behavior through your displays of emotion, this makes them feel justified in abusing you. If they can poke at you until you blow up they have counted it a win. The devil loves to make believers fall, it discredits their trust in Christ.

Matthew 27:12 " 12And when He was accused by the chief priests and elders, He gave no answer. "

Do not engage in a meaningless and silly argument with a foolish narcissist. Remain faithful to Christ and leave that trouble maker to God to deal with.