Narcissists are not interested in resolving problems. They are only interested in winning in the competition of conversation with anyone who wants to get to the bottom of things.
Narcissists will lie and use selective memory to win. They will gaslight by saying "you said this" when you didn't say what they claim. They will change the nature of events to fit with their desired belief.
Narcissists are deeply invested in fantasy thinking. When they do this they can count on their own thoughts validating them rather than exposing the real them to improve their behavior and attitudes.
It is not a blip on their radar to self evaluate anything since they must be perceived as always right. They will twist the truth, make you look as though you got everything wrong as well as punishing you when you are not convinced by their rantings.
The best thing to do when encountering these people, and you will encounter more of them as we are moving toward the end times, is to not answer them according to their folly, which is what they deserve, total dismissiveness while they are going off on you.
Proverbs 29:8-10 "…8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution.10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"
When we know where this mentality comes from we can see that it's a spiritual problem with the devil as the manipulator behind it all. He controls the mouths of many people these days. They think they are in control but they are not. The devil operates by mind deception and feelings control. Those controlled by him will think they have a valid reason for their rudeness, they are his pawns.
When we know this we can feel sorry for them rather than angry with them. It helps to know its not about us at all, its the devil attacking us to cause problems. He wants the narcissist to fight bitterly against us and he wants us to become ungodly in our responses. We do not have to be provoked by ungodly people, we can remain calm and emotionally stable.
James 1:5-8 "5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways."
Ephesians 6:11 "Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil."
When we become angry and fight back we have given the devil control over us.
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