Having Your Fun First.....Really?

Many are telling newly married people to have their fun first before they have children. This grieves me because it flies in the face of God's truth.

One of the greatest joys in life is to have a child with the one you love.

The more we indulge ourselves in play the less we prepare ourselves for the life of a family.

2 Timothy 2:22

"So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart."

Pleasure is addictive, when someone believes pleasure is more important than the family they usually live their entire life pursuing that which distracts for God's purposes.

Luke 8:14

"And as for what fell among the thorns, they are those who hear, but as they go on their way they are choked by the cares and riches and pleasures of life, and their fruit does not mature."

Seeking pleasure after marriage, delaying family to have fun causes those who pursue their pleasure to remain immature. The family life done God's way matures those who love Him.

Those who wait too long to marry often remain immature because they have set their ways in pleasure. They are burdened by family rather than blessed by it.

1 Corinthians 10:7

"Do not be idolaters as some of them were; as it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink and rose up to play.”

When play and pleasure are the focus there cannot be growth in wisdom and the principles of God. It is only in pursuing God in our marriage that one can grow in holiness.

When a couple pursues God in their marriage they will mature at a much more steady rate as they learn the life lessons that come from striving together for things that matter to God.

1 Corinthians 13:11 "11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I set aside childish ways. "z

The pursuit of pleasures is a sure sign someone is not ready to obey God in raising a family. The children in a situation like this will be taught to play all the time while tacking a little of god on at the end to feel spiritual. This is what we have in our culture right now and getting worse.

The pleasures of life do not fulfill anyone, they are temporary for as long as they are being enjoyed, but fade the moment they are finished.

In order to keep the joy alive, we must continually pursue the pleasures. For the man who trusts in God, all that is needed is the everyday life in their various forms are fulfilling. That is striving together to raise a family, build a homelife and the simple things in life bring pleasure, nothing grandiose or boast-worthy are needed for the one following after Christ.

Psalm 37:4 " 4 Delight yourself in the Lord,

and he will give you the desires of your heart."

When we seek the Lord in all things He changes our heart to want what He wants. Our own desires are removed and replaced with His desires.

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12

"11 and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we instructed you, 12 so that you will behave properly toward outsiders and not be in any need."

We do not find anywhere in Scripture in which God instructed us to play or pursue pleasure. His desire is that we will gain our pleasure from the things He has given us to do. We do see, however, the interaction with other believers as we help one another in daily life.