A narcissist will ask you what is wrong when you are troubled and then explode on you because you told them. Remember they don't really want to know if it has anything to do with them.
Ecclesiastes 10:13
"The beginning of the words of his mouth is foolishness: and the end of his talk is mischievous madness."
Tell your troubles to God He wants to hear and already knows.
A narcissist is not interested in your troubles they only want to appear as though they care, but really they just want the information to be able to further abuse you.
It is my belief that narcissists ask "what is wrong" knowing already what they did to upset you. They love to fight and judge others as bad, it makes them feel stronger, it feeds them.
Pray before you speak to a narcissist, allow the Holy Spirit to speak from you, if the narcissist rejects what He said then they will be responsible to Him.
We are living in very difficult times. Many people will display narcissistic tendencies, even an entire culture will operate from this devilish trait.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 describes them and then gives some instruction about how to deal with it.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 "Difficult (ragingly insane) Times Will Come
3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."
This passage in 2 Timothy is describing the end times church. These people will claim to be Christians but care nothing about God or His Word.
2 Timothy 4:2-5 "2 preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; correct, rebuke, and exhort, with great patience and instruction.
3 For the time will come when they will not tolerate sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance with their own desires,
4 and they will turn their ears away from the truth and will turn aside to myths.
5 But as for you, use self-restraint in all things, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry."
This narcissistic culture is more concerned about appearing special and feeling good about themselves. They will be offended at any suggestion that they have been sinful. They will rage against challenges to self-reflect rather than taking the opportunity to grow in holiness, they will regress into unbridled selfishness, punishing anyone who calls them out on their sin.
This is why I encourage believers to speak the truth in the power of the Holy Spirit, the reaction of the hearer is on them. However, we ought to be in tune with the Holy Spirit so that we do not react in anger to the narcissist who is working to cause anger in us.
It is a tactic of the devil to ruin our peace by agitating us to the point of frustration. If you make a mistake in answering back in anger, confess it to God and go on to do better next time. These devilish narcissists are "ragingly angry", it emerges whenever someone tells them the truth about their actions or attitudes.
2 Timothy 4:2 "Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine."
Why would we need "longsuffering" while reproving, rebuking, and exhorting? Its quite simple, we will be punished, mocked, and excluded by Christians for our effort to bring them back to obedience and right thinking.
Remain steadfast, joyful and resolute in obedience to God and we will at some point see the fruit of our obedience.
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