Heaping Hot Coals of Kindness is a Work of God, Not our own Work

If we are being kind to someone to "heap hot coals of kindness" in an attempt to manipulate their feelings then we are sinning. When God said to heap hot coals of kindness He did not mean we should do it to make others feel sad and guilty.

God's meaning was that if we are loving and kind genuinely it could heap coals on someone's head. This does not mean we should deliberately "heap coals" to make others feel bad, this is the same as revenge and the one we do it to will know it is manipulation and not kindness but rather malicious self-serving prideful vindictiveness to inflict more pain, this is not love but hate.

So often I see superficial believers using the scripture to justify revenge while calling it something else. When anyone does this it is sin and God hates it.

Romans 12:9 "Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good."

It is clearly hypocritical to exact revenge through phony kindness knowing your desire is to hurt another human being, whether it be through acting superior to them or just out and out demeaning through counterfeit Christianity posing as love.

It is evil and self-serving to do your own heaping coals of kindness. If the coals of kindness come it ought to be through the Holy Spirit as He works empathy and His kind of love in us in all that we do and to all whom we do it.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant.

5 It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered,

6 it does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 it keeps every confidence, it believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away with; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away with."

Heaping hot coals for our own purposes is sin and a form of "humble boasting", as if to say; "look at me, I am better than you."

Let's not be phony, manipulative and mean-spirited through heaping our own coals of kindness, let's ask God to work genuine traits of love by the power of the Holy Spirit through the expression of His traits as listed in His Word.