I recall many years ago when a dear friend shared with me her encounter with her sister who had been going to a "Christian" counselor for her failing marriage.
My friend had been crippled and in a wheelchair since her teens from polio. Her sister was having marriage problems attending counselor sessions to help her with her marriage.
The counselor convinced her that her marriage problems were due to her crippled sister's problems because she had to help that sister after polio put her in a wheelchair for life.
The foolish counselor encouraged the sister to confront her crippled sister telling her that having to help her when she became crippled caused her marriage problems in the present.
Any rational person would have to ask; "Did your sister give herself polio just to force you to help her? What good can come from making the crippled sister feel bad and guilty for the failing marriage of her sister? And, finally, is it possible the woman with the bad marriage was so foolish she would think these actions were alright showeing a lack of good sense, was the problem with her marriage?
Not only was the marriage ruined so too was the relationship with her sister. I am always frustrated when ungodly "Christian" counselors steeped in self-esteem are never held accountable for all the devastation they cause in relationships based on false premises without knowing everything.
Blaming others for our own problems never works out well for restoring and protecting loving relationships.
All the counselor knew was what the sister told her without her husband present. The fact that the sister bought into the lies of the counselor told me that she wanted a scapegoat to avoid her own sinful attitude and actions. The counselor was not only foolish but void of any good sense and so was the woman with the marriage problems.
This is why I would not trust any counselor who claims Christianity in our day because they are all indoctrinated into psychology based on Darwinism and follow principles that are against God's Word.
Those I have known who went to the Holy Spirit were able to learn the truth about themselves which helped with relationship problems. Anyone who has not lived in the home with the couple could ever get it right because they have to base their judgments on what the people tell them, which is almost always skewed to make themselves sound like the victim.
Some counselors have good discernment able to see when they are being hoodwinked but most do not.
God says there is safety in a multitude of counselors but only if they are those who seek Christ and will be honest, not worried about making the counseled one like them.
Bottom line: The only reliable counselor is the Holy Spirit in our day of apostasy. If God leads someone to a godly counselor who is not paid and invested in an income to earn a living, then we would be able to trust them.
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