Rudeness is not Confidence

There is a difference between confidence and rudeness. Confident people do not need to be rude; rudeness is often a sign of fear. Those who are confident have no need to control others or intimidate them, but fearful people often use these tactics to frighten and upset those they wish to exert power over.

 
2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind."

Proverbs 15:12 "A scoffer does not like to be reproved; he will not go to the wise."
Ephesians 4:29 "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear."

Fearful people interpret confidence as being ill-mannered because they are intimidated by those who are calm and unaffected by others.

 
Confident people are free to love people God's way because they have no need to appear superior or control others.

 
Satan was jealous of the love God had for Adam and Eve and for all that God gave them in the garden, so Satan set out to destroy the relationship between mankind and God.

 
The devil's favorite tactic was to make the human couple unsure of themselves and distrustful of God.

 
We see this today in relationships all the time, especially in family dynamics peppered with gossip, lies, and innuendos, to cause ill feelings among the members. The tactics of the devil are alive and well, working to demolish the family structure, removing the support system of those within the family.
Mankind is more easily destroyed when the family structure is demolished. In these last days, the devil has been working hard to weaken believers in Christ through lies, intimidation and isolation. He is foolish and thinks that those who have been changed by Christ can be tempted to hate God for lack of human companionship.

When we walk with Christ, He is enough for us. We continue to love people as Christ loves them and are comfortable alone with Him. When we meet someone who loves Christ, we are delighted knowing they are our family for eternity.
Those who do not love Christ, perhaps even pretending to be Christians, will not love as Christ loved; they are deeply dependent on being the god in their own lives and resent the born-again believer who does not depend on them, but only depends on Christ.

 
Believers walk in love and confidence without the need for validation from people. We walk with Christ when no one goes with us. And we love others, treating them with the respect they did not extend to us, when people do not love us back.
May believers become more Christ-like as they walk in truth not emotion.