Compliments and encouragement are embarrassing to the narcissist. They love to receive constant accolades but will never give them to others except those they wish to impress.
Narcissists will retaliate if you bring up that they were mean or rude to you, and will never reconsider their own character.
Proverbs 29:8-10 "…8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life."
Matthew 7:6 "6 “Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."
Proverbs 9:8-9 "8 Do not rebuke a mocker, or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. 9 Instruct a wise man, and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man, and he will increase his learning."
If narcissists didn't ask you for a favor, they consider us foolish for extending love, gifts, or actions that would bless a normal person; they see it as weakness. When you do a favor they ask for, they show no gratitude. These qualities of kindness that come from God are embarrassing to narcissists.
As a child growing up we were taught to say thank you. When we received kindness from someone, it was expected that a thank you would be extended. We would feel discourteous if we forgot to say thank you. Lack of gratitude was considered rude and disrespectful.
We are living in a world of narcissism now in which kindness and love are nearly absent, and those who would call it out would be called the rude ones.
Satan is clever like that; he causes harm and brings hatred while blaming the one who does not like the harm and hatred. The trouble maker in this culture is the one who does not accept rudeness, the one who teaches love and kindness is the one who is rejected.
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."
When we encounter a narcissist and discern that they have no interest in correction or instruction in righteousness, then we are to walk away and leave them to God.
We are living in the end times, in which people in general will hate God, even the ones who attend church gatherings every week, are living a form of religion but denying God in their attitudes and actions. They make up their own rules, adding and subtracting from the word of God to make up their own religion while claiming they follow the Bible. They do not follow Chris,t but rather they follow their own will, their own way, without love for Christ or anyone else.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 "Difficult Times Will Come
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."
One might ask why we are thinking about all of this. The answer is simple, we have to live in this world. It is important to know what we are dealing with so we can guard against becoming like those who are false Christians, full of pride and without love for Christ.
If we do not recognize evil when it is in front of us, we will think it is acceptable. Awareness of evil helps us remove it from our lives and resist it when others entice us to be like them.
Acts 4:13 "13 When they saw the boldness of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they marveled and took note that these men had been with Jesus."
Since we know we cannot reach a narcissist, it is best to remove ourselves from them and refrain from instructing them. They are swine who will trample goodness, instruction, and correction in righteousness under their feet.
However, never remain with the narcissist as a friend because they will love your continual silence, perceiving it as approval. It will enable them to continue even worse because of your presence and silent support. This is why God told us to "avoid them" in 2 Timothy 3:5.
How we live our lives without the narcissist will be a testimony; we do not need words for those who have shown clearly contempt for God's Word and for us. God will deal with them; it is not our job to instruct a person who refuses to be instructed.
More damage is done to you and to the narcissist by remaining friendly with them. We should never be rude when they cross our path, but they will never be our friends as long as they love anger and hatred.
The world says never reject anyone, no matter what, but God says He rejects those who hate Him, and so should we. We love them and pray for them, but we do not validate them by our companionship.
2 Corinthians 6:17 "17 Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate,” says the Lord. “And do not touch what is unclean;
And I will welcome you."
1 Corinthians 1:27 "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong."
And, above all, do not take advice from people in our day of psychology and apostasy; go to God and receive your instruction from the Holy Spirit and His Word, the Bible.
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