Making peace through truth will be despised by those who love conflict. I am peaceful even when they are not; those who reject truth are the ones causing trouble, not the ones who speak truth.
God told us to be peace makers, not peace keepers who generally sweep things under the rug to avoid conflict.
When we speak truth boldly but lovingly, we are peace makers. Those who are dedicated to being liked and avoiding conflict while endorsing sin are not peace makers, they are peace keepers to protect themselves.
God never told us to "keep the peace." He told us to make peace by seeking the truth. The only solutions to problems are in facing the truth and presenting God's solutions as written in the Bible.
When we see that our attempts to make peace through truth are rejected, then it is time to move on from those who want to fight against genuineness, authenticity, and legitimacy.
Those who care about genuine resolution to problems will want to talk things out with love in their hearts, not confrontation.
Many years ago, a young woman approached me in angry tones, declaring that we were going to have a fight; this was her idea of resolving things. My answer was: "I am not going to fight with you, if you want to come back calm with a desire to understand my side too, then we can have a discussion." She never came back, which told me that all she wanted was to vent and refuse to hear me, a sort of hit-and-run attitude.
When someone comes to us with kindness in their voice and love in their heart to work out a problem and to discover our understanding, then that is when we know they are genuinely caring about our relationship. When they come with anger to attack, then it is only to win over us in some way.
It is not possible to help others understand us when they are dedicated to misunderstanding, twisting everything we say as something awful, then there is no reasoning with them.
Proverbs 18:1-3 "1 He who isolates himself pursues selfish desires; he rebels against all sound judgment. 2 A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in airing his opinions. 3 With a wicked man comes contempt as well, and shame is accompanied by disgrace."
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