The Love Yourself First Doctrine has Destroyed the People

This is what the lie "you have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else" has created. Parental estrangement by adult children is the result of this monstrous teaching of psychology over the past 40 years.

I had conversations with Christians back in the 70's and 80's about this matter of self-esteem, and every single conversation, I was seen as foolish for saying the culture was training the children to only think of themselves.

Even their good deeds were praised for making them feel good about doing the deed. It wasn't about the need of the other person; it was about how good they felt about doing it.

I have seen news casts like this when a young person was interviewed about their kind act, and they say something like, "it made me feel good about doing it." They didn't say "I felt bad for the person and wanted to help."

The truth is, the more we love ourselves, the less we care about others. We are born loving ourselves too much and need to cultivate denial of self to love others. It is human nature to want to think highly of ourselves, which is why so many people who do good acts love being seen for what they are doing more than they care about the people they are serving.

God condemns deeds done to glorify and gratify self.

Matthew 6:1-2 "1“Be careful not to perform your righteous acts before men to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. 2 So when you give to the needy, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. Truly I tell you, they already have their full reward."

Matthew 23:1-12 "23 Then Jesus said to the crowds and to his disciples,
2 “The scribes and the Pharisees sit on Moses' seat,
3 so do and observe whatever they tell you, but not the works they do. For they preach, but do not practice.
4 They tie up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on people's shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to move them with their finger.
5 They do all their deeds to be seen by others. For they make their phylacteries broad and their fringes long,
6 and they love the place of honor at feasts and the best seats in the synagogues
7 and greetings in the marketplaces and being called rabbi by others.
8 But you are not to be called rabbi, for you have one teacher, and you are all brothers.
9 And call no man your father on earth, for you have one Father, who is in heaven.
10 Neither be called instructors, for you have one instructor, the Christ.
11 The greatest among you shall be your servant. 1
2 Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted."