If You Need to Control Others You are Insecure in Need of a Savior

Anyone who treats people differently based on their popularity is playing a role for those they manipulate with kindness; it isn't kindness at all; it's maneuvering.

The real them is the one who is mean to those they don't care about impressing. Anyone who is kind and loving in their basic character is that way all the time with everyone. They don't change based on who they are with and they do not flatter to gain advantage.

If someone is kind to everyone else and rude to you when no one is looking, you have just experienced their true character. There is no kindness in the character of those who love those who can provide something for them, even if it is only flattering them to gain their approval.

Matthew 5:44: "Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you".

1 Peter 3:9: "Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called".

Our basic character is revealed during hardship or difficulties. Those who respond in rudeness at the slightest challenge have bitterness in their hearts.

Those who follow Christ have no need to manipulate or exert power over others because they are secure in Christ. Insecure people know they have no power so they pretend to have it over those they think are weaker than they.

Psalm 91 shows us that when we are secure in Christ, we have no need to have power over others through intimidation, manipulation, and mockery.

Psalm 91 "1 He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.
2 I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”

3 For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler
and from the deadly pestilence.
4 He will cover you with his pinions,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness is a shield and buckler.
5 You will not fear the terror of the night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,
6 nor the pestilence that stalks in darkness,
nor the destruction that wastes at noonday.

7 A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you.
8 You will only look with your eyes
and see the recompense of the wicked.

9 Because you have made the Lord your dwelling place—
the Most High, who is my refuge
10 no evil shall be allowed to befall you,
no plague come near your tent.

11 For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways.
12 On their hands they will bear you up,
lest you strike your foot against a stone.
13 You will tread on the lion and the adder;
the young lion and the serpent you will trample underfoot.

14 “Because he holds fast to me in love, I will deliver him;
I will protect him, because he knows my name.
15 When he calls to me, I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble;
I will rescue him and honor him.
16 With long life I will satisfy him
and show him my salvation.”