Just 70 years ago, nearly every women remained in the home, working hard to take care of her family. She did everything in the home that was needed.
The homemaker saved the family a lot of money by searching for the best buys, preparing canned and frozen food from gardens for the winter supply.
The woman in the home saved money by mending and sewing clothing, she was always very busy, never bored, tired at the end of her day, a good tired based on usefulness. She had many skills that most women do not have today, because these skills were taught in high school and by their own mothers.
Only those who do not understand the managing role of the woman in the home would dare to say it was dull or boring.
Any job, whether it be out in the world or in the home is only as exciting as we make it. In the public work place however, one has to obey their boss, at home we are the boss, we make the decisions and we decide everything in the household.
Friday, January 19, 2018
Remove the Trouble Makers
The narcissist is the happiest when they are starting fights. They poke at their target until they get a reaction and then they say, "look how you are", or "you are too sensitive" or even more frustrating, "I was just joking", when you attempt to defend yourself.
The devil has many tactics but this one is the most diabolical of all, it catches the target off guard and the initial response when we are verbally attacked is to defend ourselves. It is very deceitful full of provocation without cause.
The clue in dealing with these manufacturers of arguments and fights, is to refuse to play along, get up and leave and from that moment on stay away from them.
Never respond to the narcissist, as crazy as it may seem, when we respond, those in the room who did not see the whole thing will assume we did something wrong and the narcissist is the victim. The one who gets upset is the one others see as the trouble maker. I have seen this many times in my life, the narcissist pokes and pokes and pokes, the first two times we tell them to stop and they won't, then the third time we get up in their face and yell at them. At that point the narcissist has a subtle look of glee on his face as though he was the cat that just caught the canary. It pleases and feeds the narcissist when we react to their abuse.
God described these people in 2 Timothy 3:1-5, in verse 5 He clearly told us "from such get away."
2 Timothy 3:1-5
“Difficult Times Will Come”
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
The devil is continually manufacturing ways to cause us to lose our calm and joyful demeanor in order to discredit our Christianity. The narcissist loves to make believers look bad so others will not listen to the target.
I some cases these narcissists are people who claim they are Christians, their purpose is to make themselves look like better Christians than we are, they must always be elevated above others. If they have no reason to appear elevated they will invent some.
The best way to handle these devilish people is clearly stated in the Bible.
1. Get away from them as we see in 2 Timothy 3:5
"5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away."
2. Refuse to respond to the fool: Proverbs 26:3-5
"…3 A whip is for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, And a rod for the back of fools. 4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly, Or you will also be like him. 5 Answer a fool as his folly deserves, That he not be wise in his own eyes.…"
First we do not answer a fool, and that is what his foolishness deserves, no answer and no reaction.
3. Make a practice of avoiding these people.
2 Corinthians 6:16-17 "…16 What agreement can exist between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be My people.” 17“Therefore come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” "
The best way to handle a fool who loves to fight is to refuse to engage at all on any level, learn not to speak, learn to respond by leaving and do not react.
The devil has many tactics but this one is the most diabolical of all, it catches the target off guard and the initial response when we are verbally attacked is to defend ourselves. It is very deceitful full of provocation without cause.
The clue in dealing with these manufacturers of arguments and fights, is to refuse to play along, get up and leave and from that moment on stay away from them.
Never respond to the narcissist, as crazy as it may seem, when we respond, those in the room who did not see the whole thing will assume we did something wrong and the narcissist is the victim. The one who gets upset is the one others see as the trouble maker. I have seen this many times in my life, the narcissist pokes and pokes and pokes, the first two times we tell them to stop and they won't, then the third time we get up in their face and yell at them. At that point the narcissist has a subtle look of glee on his face as though he was the cat that just caught the canary. It pleases and feeds the narcissist when we react to their abuse.
God described these people in 2 Timothy 3:1-5, in verse 5 He clearly told us "from such get away."
2 Timothy 3:1-5
“Difficult Times Will Come”
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
The devil is continually manufacturing ways to cause us to lose our calm and joyful demeanor in order to discredit our Christianity. The narcissist loves to make believers look bad so others will not listen to the target.
I some cases these narcissists are people who claim they are Christians, their purpose is to make themselves look like better Christians than we are, they must always be elevated above others. If they have no reason to appear elevated they will invent some.
The best way to handle these devilish people is clearly stated in the Bible.
1. Get away from them as we see in 2 Timothy 3:5
"5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away."
2. Refuse to respond to the fool: Proverbs 26:3-5
"…3 A whip is for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, And a rod for the back of fools. 4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly, Or you will also be like him. 5 Answer a fool as his folly deserves, That he not be wise in his own eyes.…"
First we do not answer a fool, and that is what his foolishness deserves, no answer and no reaction.
3. Make a practice of avoiding these people.
2 Corinthians 6:16-17 "…16 What agreement can exist between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be My people.” 17“Therefore come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” "
The best way to handle a fool who loves to fight is to refuse to engage at all on any level, learn not to speak, learn to respond by leaving and do not react.
KJV is Inspired, by King James not by God
The KJV of the Bible was given through the Church of England, which began because King Henry the Eighth wanted to divorce his wife but the Catholic church would not allow it. It started out in rebellion against God and remains to this day, with various updates of language.
It is my opinion it is the reason so many people have misinterpreted the passages about divorce and remarriage to include exceptions. There were never any exceptions to divorce and remarriage up until the time of King Henry the 8th.
King James instructed the translator of his version to include the concept of "clergy", which is clearly unbiblical.
King Henry the 8th declared Himself the supreme head of the church of England in his day. King James declared himself the head of the church of Scotland, an unBilbical act all by itself.
King James was accused of developing a "Popery", in his declaration that he was the head of the church.
In authentic Christianity, Only Christ is the head of the church, there is no human hierarchy. The elders lead the church as led by Christ, but no one man is over all believer of any country.
It is my opinion it is the reason so many people have misinterpreted the passages about divorce and remarriage to include exceptions. There were never any exceptions to divorce and remarriage up until the time of King Henry the 8th.
King James instructed the translator of his version to include the concept of "clergy", which is clearly unbiblical.
King Henry the 8th declared Himself the supreme head of the church of England in his day. King James declared himself the head of the church of Scotland, an unBilbical act all by itself.
King James was accused of developing a "Popery", in his declaration that he was the head of the church.
In authentic Christianity, Only Christ is the head of the church, there is no human hierarchy. The elders lead the church as led by Christ, but no one man is over all believer of any country.
Thursday, January 18, 2018
The Mess is Growing
I just saw a story on another post about a "woman" who married a man but didn't tell her husband she was a tranny, she was a man who made himself into a woman.
Now days one had better ask the question before they are married and make them prove that they are what they say they are, or they may find themselves engaged in a homosexual relationship without even knowing it.
If a man claims to be a woman and marries another man without telling him, when the truth comes out there needs to be a divorce. This is an abomination to God, the vows are not binding because one party was deceived and not one of the opposite gender.
This culture is becoming so mixed up and crazy-making that we would even have to think of such things at all, is beyond the pale.
Just twenty years ago these abominations were the insane fringe people, now we have government agencies legalizing all of it and even placing restrictions on our speech about it.
Can we say "Sodom and Gommorah?"
Now days one had better ask the question before they are married and make them prove that they are what they say they are, or they may find themselves engaged in a homosexual relationship without even knowing it.
If a man claims to be a woman and marries another man without telling him, when the truth comes out there needs to be a divorce. This is an abomination to God, the vows are not binding because one party was deceived and not one of the opposite gender.
This culture is becoming so mixed up and crazy-making that we would even have to think of such things at all, is beyond the pale.
Just twenty years ago these abominations were the insane fringe people, now we have government agencies legalizing all of it and even placing restrictions on our speech about it.
Can we say "Sodom and Gommorah?"
Making Decisions in Sync
There are only two people who should make the decisions in a marriage, that is the husband and wife together. Anyone else who interferes by going to the husband alone to convince him what he should do with his wife, is interfering where they do not belong.
Remember, there are those in cults who encourage the husband to take his direction from the elders who promote the husband oppressing his wife to get his own way.
Get out of these cults, they will be constantly placing pressure on the husband to be intimidating, mocking and demeaning in attempts to control the emotions of their wives.
Micro managing the wife is not only unBiblical it is mean and selfish. Every man should be encouraging his wife to pursue her talents and desires as she manages the home.
Love cares more about enhancing the life experience for the one they love than about getting their own way.
Christ died for the world to save them from sin and we should die to self to be supportive of our spouse. We should enjoy their strengths and help them through their weaknesses.
Pretty simple isn't it, unless someone is stubborn and self absorbed.
Remember, there are those in cults who encourage the husband to take his direction from the elders who promote the husband oppressing his wife to get his own way.
Get out of these cults, they will be constantly placing pressure on the husband to be intimidating, mocking and demeaning in attempts to control the emotions of their wives.
Micro managing the wife is not only unBiblical it is mean and selfish. Every man should be encouraging his wife to pursue her talents and desires as she manages the home.
Love cares more about enhancing the life experience for the one they love than about getting their own way.
Christ died for the world to save them from sin and we should die to self to be supportive of our spouse. We should enjoy their strengths and help them through their weaknesses.
Pretty simple isn't it, unless someone is stubborn and self absorbed.
"In Sync" meaning suited to one another as a team in lock step for a common goal.
Brain Washing in the Churches
Interesting isn't it, brain washing has been going on in this world for a long time.
God's word has been used in the same way a college student uses "Cliff" notes. The student in life skims over the Word, finding the things they like, interpreting them according to their traditions rather than evaluating their traditions according to the Word. Even more sadly, these people interpret the Bible according to others in their gathering instead of seeking Christ on their own.
Most people fall into this category of superficial believers. They are more interested in pleasing the people in the building than they are pleasing God.
The "new traditions" have become acceptance of divorce and remarriage, softening everything so people will not be offended, intimidating people into believing that a one man pastor is the authority and that everything he says must be obeyed, even if it is not Scriptural.
Even more disturbing is when we ask questions or bring up thoughts in opposition to the thoughts of one who has been trained in the institutions, we are met with arrogance that we dared to disagree with them.
One does not become an expert in life by going to the right school. We become wise by reading God's Word, believing Him and practicing what we believe. Yes, and believe it or not one can actually progress faster in wisdom as they seek God alone without teachers. Far too many teachers these days are bringing false doctrine corrupting their students. It is better to seek Christ Who lives in you than to run after others.
Never pay much attention to the arrogant teachers who had to be trained by man to gain knowledge and who refuses to discuss anything because they think they have all knowledge.
Pay every attention to God's Word, the Holy Spirit that lives in us and actually obey what He tells you. If what you think He is telling you does not match with the Word of God, then ignore them and even get away from them.
1 Corinthians 8:1-2 "1 Now about food sacrificed to idols: We know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. 2 The one who thinks he knows something does not yet know as he ought to know.…"
There is much knowledge false in our Christian churches but very little wisdom.
Proverbs 19:8 " 8 He who gets wisdom loves his own soul; He who keeps understanding will find good. 9 A false witness will not go unpunished, And he who tells lies will perish.…"
God's word has been used in the same way a college student uses "Cliff" notes. The student in life skims over the Word, finding the things they like, interpreting them according to their traditions rather than evaluating their traditions according to the Word. Even more sadly, these people interpret the Bible according to others in their gathering instead of seeking Christ on their own.
Most people fall into this category of superficial believers. They are more interested in pleasing the people in the building than they are pleasing God.
The "new traditions" have become acceptance of divorce and remarriage, softening everything so people will not be offended, intimidating people into believing that a one man pastor is the authority and that everything he says must be obeyed, even if it is not Scriptural.
Even more disturbing is when we ask questions or bring up thoughts in opposition to the thoughts of one who has been trained in the institutions, we are met with arrogance that we dared to disagree with them.
One does not become an expert in life by going to the right school. We become wise by reading God's Word, believing Him and practicing what we believe. Yes, and believe it or not one can actually progress faster in wisdom as they seek God alone without teachers. Far too many teachers these days are bringing false doctrine corrupting their students. It is better to seek Christ Who lives in you than to run after others.
Never pay much attention to the arrogant teachers who had to be trained by man to gain knowledge and who refuses to discuss anything because they think they have all knowledge.
Pay every attention to God's Word, the Holy Spirit that lives in us and actually obey what He tells you. If what you think He is telling you does not match with the Word of God, then ignore them and even get away from them.
1 Corinthians 8:1-2 "1 Now about food sacrificed to idols: We know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. 2 The one who thinks he knows something does not yet know as he ought to know.…"
There is much knowledge false in our Christian churches but very little wisdom.
Proverbs 19:8 " 8 He who gets wisdom loves his own soul; He who keeps understanding will find good. 9 A false witness will not go unpunished, And he who tells lies will perish.…"
Spiritual Abuse
Christ is love, He never forced anyone, He loved sharing and caring. I am a strong believer who has also been abused by superficial and mean spirited legalists.
I left the organized churches because there was a lack of love, a legalism in things God never commanded. There was an attitude of forcing through intimidation and exclusion when we didn't think exactly the way they did. I desired everything to be done according to the Word of God, but was never allowed to speak of it, nor what it the desire of most of the people in these places.
The saddest part for me was that no one would discuss anything rationally and calmly, they raged when I differed with them and excluded with harsh gazes while they enjoyed one another and disapproved of me.
They didn't see us as having a disagreement, they saw me as a target to be diminished because I didn't think as they did. There is no doubt there is a lot of cliquiness in the organized churches today, with little love in them.
I am born again, but will never return to the organized church as long as I am walking with Christ. I love believers who love Christ, but many really don't, they just love themselves more than God and more than people. We attend a little gathering of about 10 people right now, the people are loving and kind but mostly they seem to be dedicated to everything according to the Word of God.
I have some wonderful Christian friends who do not intimidate, exclude and mock, but they are not all in one place, they are all over the world and some have also left the church, but have not left Christ. They love Him as I do and demonstrate love and kindness toward everyone.
Christ is love, He never forced anyone, He loved sharing and caring. I am a strong believer who has also been abused by superficial and meanspirited legalists. I
left the organized churches because there was a lack of love, a legalism in things God never commanded. There was an attitude of forcing through intimidation and exclusion when we didn't think exactly the way they did. This is spiritual abuse, merely to elevate human beings as special. In my estimation, no one is special only Christ and no one has anything to boast about or elevate self over what they think they are.
The saddest part for me was that no one would discuss anything rationally and calmly, they raged when I differed with them and excluded with harsh gazes while they enjoyed one another and disapproved of me. Questioning them was taboo, as though any questioning was allowed. I question all things, even God. I am so thankful that God does not rage at me for expressing myself, He just gives great and perfect answers.
Controllers and manipulators didn't see us as having a disagreement, they saw me as a target to be diminished because I didn't think as they did.
There is no doubt there is a lot of cliquiness in the organized churches today, with little love in them. I am born again, but will never return to the organized church as long as I am walking with Christ.
I love believers who love Christ, but many really don't, they just love themselves more than God and more than people. I have some wonderful Christian friends who do not act like this, but they are not all in one place, they are all over the world and have also left the church, but have not left Christ. They love Him as I do and demonstrate love and kindness toward everyone. In fact their relationship with Christ improved when they left the places where personal aggrandizement was rampant.
When we follow hard after Christ we will not be accepted in any organization, we will be rejected because we do not walk in lock step with them, we walk in lock step with Christ.
I praise the Lord that He found us a place to attend with very few people but who are dedicated to truth and love the day of His appearing. I have sense only love in this place and hope that they feel love from us.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of [b]prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away."
1 Corinthians 13:1 "1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a ringing gong or a clanging cymbal."
I left the organized churches because there was a lack of love, a legalism in things God never commanded. There was an attitude of forcing through intimidation and exclusion when we didn't think exactly the way they did. I desired everything to be done according to the Word of God, but was never allowed to speak of it, nor what it the desire of most of the people in these places.
The saddest part for me was that no one would discuss anything rationally and calmly, they raged when I differed with them and excluded with harsh gazes while they enjoyed one another and disapproved of me.
They didn't see us as having a disagreement, they saw me as a target to be diminished because I didn't think as they did. There is no doubt there is a lot of cliquiness in the organized churches today, with little love in them.
I am born again, but will never return to the organized church as long as I am walking with Christ. I love believers who love Christ, but many really don't, they just love themselves more than God and more than people. We attend a little gathering of about 10 people right now, the people are loving and kind but mostly they seem to be dedicated to everything according to the Word of God.
I have some wonderful Christian friends who do not intimidate, exclude and mock, but they are not all in one place, they are all over the world and some have also left the church, but have not left Christ. They love Him as I do and demonstrate love and kindness toward everyone.
Christ is love, He never forced anyone, He loved sharing and caring. I am a strong believer who has also been abused by superficial and meanspirited legalists. I
left the organized churches because there was a lack of love, a legalism in things God never commanded. There was an attitude of forcing through intimidation and exclusion when we didn't think exactly the way they did. This is spiritual abuse, merely to elevate human beings as special. In my estimation, no one is special only Christ and no one has anything to boast about or elevate self over what they think they are.
The saddest part for me was that no one would discuss anything rationally and calmly, they raged when I differed with them and excluded with harsh gazes while they enjoyed one another and disapproved of me. Questioning them was taboo, as though any questioning was allowed. I question all things, even God. I am so thankful that God does not rage at me for expressing myself, He just gives great and perfect answers.
Controllers and manipulators didn't see us as having a disagreement, they saw me as a target to be diminished because I didn't think as they did.
There is no doubt there is a lot of cliquiness in the organized churches today, with little love in them. I am born again, but will never return to the organized church as long as I am walking with Christ.
I love believers who love Christ, but many really don't, they just love themselves more than God and more than people. I have some wonderful Christian friends who do not act like this, but they are not all in one place, they are all over the world and have also left the church, but have not left Christ. They love Him as I do and demonstrate love and kindness toward everyone. In fact their relationship with Christ improved when they left the places where personal aggrandizement was rampant.
When we follow hard after Christ we will not be accepted in any organization, we will be rejected because we do not walk in lock step with them, we walk in lock step with Christ.
I praise the Lord that He found us a place to attend with very few people but who are dedicated to truth and love the day of His appearing. I have sense only love in this place and hope that they feel love from us.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of [b]prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away."
1 Corinthians 13:1 "1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a ringing gong or a clanging cymbal."
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