Did you know there are trolls afoot? Yes they are the people who have blocked you but want to keep seeing what you are doing, so they go on the facebook of their friends to spy on you. ROFL (rolling on floor laughing)
These people can't confront you because they are hiding, but will work on those you know to come against you. Sort of like the wicked witch in "The Wizard of Oz", when she sent out her flying monkeys to do her dastardly deeds for her.
If a post like this makes them even angrier then the proof of their covert hatred is in their anger. However, and this is what we pray for, they will become convicted and repent from their angst against others simply because they cannot control them.
It is sin to gather information for the purpose of finding something to be angry about, as well as to be able to pass something on that turns others against them.
God shows us who these people are through various means. They will use particular verbiage that indicates they saw something on your facebook but are careful to cloak it in language that can be plausibly denied.
The blessing in all of this is our confidence in Christ that allows us to ignore the attacks.
The devils are working hard to derail those who love Christ. However he is too full of himself to realize that Christ in us sees all of this and gives us the strength and resolve to carry on in the direction Christ is leading us. These things roll off like water off a ducks back because they are not attacks against us, they are against God and He can handle it.
Psalm 28:7
"The Lord is my strength and my shield;
my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.
My heart leaps for joy,
and with my song I praise him. "
Daniel 11:32
“... but the people who know their God shall be strong, and carry out great exploits.”
2 Chronicles 16:9
"For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.”
Psalm 144:1
“Blessed be the Lord my Rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle – my lovingkindness and my fortress, my high tower and my deliverer, my shield and the One in whom I take refuge, who subdues my people under me.”
2 Samuel 22:29
"For You are my lamp, O Lord; the Lord shall enlighten my darkness. For by You I can run against a troop; by my God I can leap over a wall. As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.”
Psalm 18:32
“It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure.”
Habakkuk 3:19
“The Lord GOD is my strength, And He has made my feet like hinds’ feet, And makes me walk on my high places.”
Psalm 41:12
“As for me, You uphold me in my integrity, And You set me in Your presence forever.”
Psalm 54:4
“Behold, God is my helper; The Lord is the sustainer of my soul."
Friday, November 22, 2019
Remove the Narcissist From Your Lives and Peace will Return
Narcissists love to intimidate believers by calling names, false accusations as well as through veiled threats that they will cause others to be against us.
When the narcissist cannot intimidate their target into submission through the name calling they will name drop to cause fear that they will influence others to be against us.
Things I have heard them say are "so and so agrees with me" and "I know others who are against you too." When these things don't work they will begin the gossiping campaign hoping you will go to the people to whom they gossiped and try to straighten it all out.
This tactic of name dropping and intimidation to cause fear is designed to cause you to overreact and confront everyone only making you look ridiculous. When someone does this the best thing to do is ignore them, never speak of them to anyone else except very close trusted friends whom the narcissist does not know and allow God to deal with the narcissist.
Those who use these tactics to harm their target eventually implode. They will be exposed one day, either in this life as they lose friends who can see through the nonsense, or God will deal with it in eternity.
The devil is sending these people into our circles to cause discontent, worry and fighting. Narcissists love to poke at someone until they blow up in frustration and then lie to others that you blew up for no reason at all. Their tactics are many and varied but the goal is always the same, to get you to become the bad one.
God told us in His word how to deal with these people. The verses below show us to "avoid them" when we can, and to refuse to engage by not answering them.
Sometimes we answer people because we think we are having a discussion to clarify things. We think each of us is sharing our views to help with the understanding. But the narcissist is not doing this, we find out later they are merely attempting to force us into their way of thinking while using mocking, intimidation and lies to cause frustration in us.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."
When we discover we are dealing with this sort of person, that is the narcissist who does not care about truth but only wants to win the discussion, we must remove ourselves and stay away from them entirely if at all possible. Set your boundary, "I will not longer discuss this" and block them from all ability to reach you.
The following Scriptures tell us how to handle these narcissistic types who love their drama and hate the peace in others.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 18:6
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating."
Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
Proverbs 10:23
"Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."
Lastly and most importantly :
Proverbs 22:10-12
"10 Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out,
Even strife and dishonor will cease."
When the narcissist cannot intimidate their target into submission through the name calling they will name drop to cause fear that they will influence others to be against us.
Things I have heard them say are "so and so agrees with me" and "I know others who are against you too." When these things don't work they will begin the gossiping campaign hoping you will go to the people to whom they gossiped and try to straighten it all out.
This tactic of name dropping and intimidation to cause fear is designed to cause you to overreact and confront everyone only making you look ridiculous. When someone does this the best thing to do is ignore them, never speak of them to anyone else except very close trusted friends whom the narcissist does not know and allow God to deal with the narcissist.
Those who use these tactics to harm their target eventually implode. They will be exposed one day, either in this life as they lose friends who can see through the nonsense, or God will deal with it in eternity.
The devil is sending these people into our circles to cause discontent, worry and fighting. Narcissists love to poke at someone until they blow up in frustration and then lie to others that you blew up for no reason at all. Their tactics are many and varied but the goal is always the same, to get you to become the bad one.
God told us in His word how to deal with these people. The verses below show us to "avoid them" when we can, and to refuse to engage by not answering them.
Sometimes we answer people because we think we are having a discussion to clarify things. We think each of us is sharing our views to help with the understanding. But the narcissist is not doing this, we find out later they are merely attempting to force us into their way of thinking while using mocking, intimidation and lies to cause frustration in us.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."
When we discover we are dealing with this sort of person, that is the narcissist who does not care about truth but only wants to win the discussion, we must remove ourselves and stay away from them entirely if at all possible. Set your boundary, "I will not longer discuss this" and block them from all ability to reach you.
The following Scriptures tell us how to handle these narcissistic types who love their drama and hate the peace in others.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 18:6
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating."
Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
Proverbs 10:23
"Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."
Lastly and most importantly :
Proverbs 22:10-12
"10 Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out,
Even strife and dishonor will cease."
Thursday, November 21, 2019
The Seculars See It Too
Even the secular community is noticing that things are getting worse in the world.
They are saying things like; "it can only get worse as we see society going into these narcissistic tendencies."
And, they are saying what we need is a disaster to wake people up to their "need for each other", and "perhaps a world leader who sill help us out of this mess."
I listened to secular psychologists say these very things this morning. One of those psychologists purports to be Christian and yet he is speaking just like the seculers.
This is the very thing we can expect in these last days. Things getting worse and then the onset of a world leader claiming to be Christ.
We are being groomed right now by "Christian rock stars" and "prosperity preachers" who are preparing the culture to believe in the false Christ.
We have a leader right now who claims to be a Christian but denies his need for repentance. He is standing for the things that agree somewhat with Christian principles but deny the true Christ as he sits under a false teacher in his church.
All this "Jesus" talk is leading to the false Jesus, we know this because of the false doctrines they are espousing as they smile big smiles and dance and sing as though life is good.
Where is the weeping over sin, where is the seriousness of sermons that encourage holiness and self denial. These do not exist in the modern apostate church.
2 Timothy 4:2-4…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"
We are going to lose friends, we will be rebuked for speaking truth by others in the churches we attend and on mediums like facebook. Members of our own families will gossip against us, telling lies about being self righteous and mean spirited, ascribing to us their own attitudes.
Matthew 10:21-22 "…21 Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rise against their parents and have them put to death. 22 You will be hated by everyone on account of My name, but the one who perseveres to the end will be saved."
Proverbs 29:27
"An unjust man is detestable to the righteous, and one whose way is upright is detestable to the wicked."
Isaiah 66:5
"You who tremble at His word, hear the word of the LORD: "Your brothers who hate and exclude you because of My name have said, 'Let the LORD be glorified that we may see your joy!' But they will be put to shame."
Matthew 5:10
"Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."
Do not allow any of these things to discourage you, they are to be expected and ignored. We cannot change anyone's heart nor can we convince anyone. We are merely to tell the truth, walk away and leave all of the results to Christ.
1 Corinthians 3:6-9
"6 I planted, Apollos watered, but God was causing the growth.
7 So then neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but God who causes the growth.
8 Now he who plants and he who waters are one; but each will receive his own reward according to his own labor.
9 For we are God’s fellow workers; you are God’s field, God’s building."
It is God's word that is powerful not our delivery. Never mind the response to us, God takes care of His own Word and it is powerful.
Hebrews 4:11-13
"11 Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest, so that no one will fall by following the same pattern of disobedience.
12 For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it pierces even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight; everything is uncovered and exposed before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.…"
They are saying things like; "it can only get worse as we see society going into these narcissistic tendencies."
And, they are saying what we need is a disaster to wake people up to their "need for each other", and "perhaps a world leader who sill help us out of this mess."
I listened to secular psychologists say these very things this morning. One of those psychologists purports to be Christian and yet he is speaking just like the seculers.
This is the very thing we can expect in these last days. Things getting worse and then the onset of a world leader claiming to be Christ.
We are being groomed right now by "Christian rock stars" and "prosperity preachers" who are preparing the culture to believe in the false Christ.
We have a leader right now who claims to be a Christian but denies his need for repentance. He is standing for the things that agree somewhat with Christian principles but deny the true Christ as he sits under a false teacher in his church.
All this "Jesus" talk is leading to the false Jesus, we know this because of the false doctrines they are espousing as they smile big smiles and dance and sing as though life is good.
Where is the weeping over sin, where is the seriousness of sermons that encourage holiness and self denial. These do not exist in the modern apostate church.
2 Timothy 4:2-4…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"
We are going to lose friends, we will be rebuked for speaking truth by others in the churches we attend and on mediums like facebook. Members of our own families will gossip against us, telling lies about being self righteous and mean spirited, ascribing to us their own attitudes.
Matthew 10:21-22 "…21 Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rise against their parents and have them put to death. 22 You will be hated by everyone on account of My name, but the one who perseveres to the end will be saved."
Proverbs 29:27
"An unjust man is detestable to the righteous, and one whose way is upright is detestable to the wicked."
Isaiah 66:5
"You who tremble at His word, hear the word of the LORD: "Your brothers who hate and exclude you because of My name have said, 'Let the LORD be glorified that we may see your joy!' But they will be put to shame."
Matthew 5:10
"Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."
Do not allow any of these things to discourage you, they are to be expected and ignored. We cannot change anyone's heart nor can we convince anyone. We are merely to tell the truth, walk away and leave all of the results to Christ.
1 Corinthians 3:6-9
"6 I planted, Apollos watered, but God was causing the growth.
7 So then neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but God who causes the growth.
8 Now he who plants and he who waters are one; but each will receive his own reward according to his own labor.
9 For we are God’s fellow workers; you are God’s field, God’s building."
It is God's word that is powerful not our delivery. Never mind the response to us, God takes care of His own Word and it is powerful.
Hebrews 4:11-13
"11 Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest, so that no one will fall by following the same pattern of disobedience.
12 For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it pierces even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight; everything is uncovered and exposed before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.…"
Obedience to God First
A woman should have an abusive husband arrested since the abuse is against the law. I just want to be sure no one is endorsing putting up with abusiveness. We are to obey our husbands when they ask us to do most things except when they ask us to go against God, then we must go with God.
Also there is another principle to think about. The husband is not to be a micro manager in the home. The home was given to the woman to manage, it was not given to the man to dictate that job. The woman is responsible to make her own choices about the home taking into account the desires of her husband but he should not be dictating that. That job was given to the woman by God.
Also, if a homemaker help mate makes a rule about taking shoes off before entering the man is to submit to the house rules of the woman.
Leadership in marriage is similar to leadership in the church. The leaders are to lead by teaching and example. They are to love the people and their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ spoke truth and allowed people to make their own choices. No man or leader in the church should intimidate, manipulate or force anyone to do anything.
Leadership must spend a lot of time in prayer to be able to resist the natural temptation to rule harshly over their household. It is easy for a man who is stronger and bigger to assert himself through sinful means.
Leaders must have enough faith to lovingly teach and lead by example while leaving whether or not others obey to God.
Matthew 20:25-26 " 25 But Jesus called them aside and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their superiors exercise authority over them. 26 It shall not be this way among you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant,…"
Jesus Christ never forced or intimidated anyone!
Also there is another principle to think about. The husband is not to be a micro manager in the home. The home was given to the woman to manage, it was not given to the man to dictate that job. The woman is responsible to make her own choices about the home taking into account the desires of her husband but he should not be dictating that. That job was given to the woman by God.
Also, if a homemaker help mate makes a rule about taking shoes off before entering the man is to submit to the house rules of the woman.
Leadership in marriage is similar to leadership in the church. The leaders are to lead by teaching and example. They are to love the people and their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ spoke truth and allowed people to make their own choices. No man or leader in the church should intimidate, manipulate or force anyone to do anything.
Leadership must spend a lot of time in prayer to be able to resist the natural temptation to rule harshly over their household. It is easy for a man who is stronger and bigger to assert himself through sinful means.
Leaders must have enough faith to lovingly teach and lead by example while leaving whether or not others obey to God.
Matthew 20:25-26 " 25 But Jesus called them aside and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their superiors exercise authority over them. 26 It shall not be this way among you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant,…"
Jesus Christ never forced or intimidated anyone!
Ignore the Ignorant Man
Matthew 5:11
“Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account."
All of us will encounter this from time to time. The devil hates truth and will throw everything he has at you to discourage you. These attacks no longer affect me but I am grieved for those who are caught up in false doctrine believing they are defending God all the while they are heaping judgment on themselves.
Revelation 12:10
"And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God and the authority of his Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God."
Exodus 14:14
"The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.”
We do not have to fight with our enemies, we merely have to stand our ground and allow God to fight our battles for us.
1 Peter 2:4-6
"4 And coming to Him as to a living stone which has been rejected by men, but is choice and precious in the sight of God,
5 you also, as living stones, are being built up as a spiritual house for a holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.
6 For this is contained in Scripture:
“Behold, I lay in Zion a choice stone, a precious corner stone,
And he who believes in Him will not be disappointed.”
We have been and are going to be met with opposition when we speak the truth of the Word of God. Those who are disobedient and rebellious will accuse us of their own sins.
They will say we have false doctrine while they have false doctrine. They will call us names and malign our character in defense of their own false doctrine. We have all encountered this and can count on it happening as we grow in wisdom.
The world hates God and many pretenders occupy the church pews today, they are prideful and accuse the true brethren of pride. They are revilers and accuse the brethren of reviling.
The same disrespect that we see in the world is now in the church, disrespect for the elders, disrespect for one another and disrespect especially for God's Word. They treat God's word as a book of suggestions attempting to make it fit their worldly doctrine as they continue to lie against God and against the brethren.
Proverbs 11:9
"With his mouth the godless man would destroy his neighbor, but by knowledge the righteous are delivered."
James 1:2-4
"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
1 Peter 4:14
"If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you."
Bottom line: Ignore the insults and continue with the truth. Give no attention to those who mock, demean and attempt to ruin you and all your relationships. God protects us and will take care of all this injustice when He is finished here.
1 Corinthians 14:38 KJV
"38 But if any man be ignorant, let him be ignorant (ignored)."
1 Corinthians 14:38 NASB
"38 But if anyone does not recognize this, he is not recognized."
In this verse we see from the two different versions of the Bible they both support that we are to ignore the ignorant man who asserts his foolishness.
“Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account."
All of us will encounter this from time to time. The devil hates truth and will throw everything he has at you to discourage you. These attacks no longer affect me but I am grieved for those who are caught up in false doctrine believing they are defending God all the while they are heaping judgment on themselves.
Revelation 12:10
"And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God and the authority of his Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God."
Exodus 14:14
"The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.”
We do not have to fight with our enemies, we merely have to stand our ground and allow God to fight our battles for us.
1 Peter 2:4-6
"4 And coming to Him as to a living stone which has been rejected by men, but is choice and precious in the sight of God,
5 you also, as living stones, are being built up as a spiritual house for a holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.
6 For this is contained in Scripture:
“Behold, I lay in Zion a choice stone, a precious corner stone,
And he who believes in Him will not be disappointed.”
We have been and are going to be met with opposition when we speak the truth of the Word of God. Those who are disobedient and rebellious will accuse us of their own sins.
They will say we have false doctrine while they have false doctrine. They will call us names and malign our character in defense of their own false doctrine. We have all encountered this and can count on it happening as we grow in wisdom.
The world hates God and many pretenders occupy the church pews today, they are prideful and accuse the true brethren of pride. They are revilers and accuse the brethren of reviling.
The same disrespect that we see in the world is now in the church, disrespect for the elders, disrespect for one another and disrespect especially for God's Word. They treat God's word as a book of suggestions attempting to make it fit their worldly doctrine as they continue to lie against God and against the brethren.
Proverbs 11:9
"With his mouth the godless man would destroy his neighbor, but by knowledge the righteous are delivered."
James 1:2-4
"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
1 Peter 4:14
"If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you."
Bottom line: Ignore the insults and continue with the truth. Give no attention to those who mock, demean and attempt to ruin you and all your relationships. God protects us and will take care of all this injustice when He is finished here.
1 Corinthians 14:38 KJV
"38 But if any man be ignorant, let him be ignorant (ignored)."
1 Corinthians 14:38 NASB
"38 But if anyone does not recognize this, he is not recognized."
In this verse we see from the two different versions of the Bible they both support that we are to ignore the ignorant man who asserts his foolishness.
Wednesday, November 20, 2019
Avoid the Divisive Person
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